hey can anyone cheer me up please?

[steve208]

hey there AB'ers

Im feeling so bad today after drinking to much at a party last night. Its not so much the phyiscal stuff will recover from the hangover etc.

Its more the fact that i feel i made an idiot out of myself and said things to people i should not have...nothing nasty just said too much.

I went after women like they were going out of fashion, spent to much, and got told im boring by people so nyup all in all a great night.

[blue eyes ;)]

happens to the best of us! iv given up going out cos i always make a fool of myself...i swear drink should be banned!!(from me anyway!) x

[steve208]

hey

hum yes it may happen to the best of us but i mean people at work (as it was party by someone i work with) will now confirm their thoughts that im an idiot.

how can i go about changing this....work coleague said that i all i ever talk/think about is women, food and slagin off one particular guy at work.

[Rubyrose]

Awwww. Hun if I am really honest then don't go changing yourself for anyone. Why the hell should you? I'm sure you know plenty of people who don't think you are boring. Why try and impress the people who think you are? You can't just change your personality over night! If you are that worried about it though, then try not to talk about women or slagging that guy off. Talk about different things... strike up interesting conversations that don't involve those subjects.

xx

[steve208]

hey ruby thanks for your words of advice. will try to stear away from those subjects...tho scared of going to work tommorow given the fool that i was last nite...and was tryin to chat up all the women.

[~Wingnut~]

Hi steve208,

This is why I also watch what I drink if I ever (not usually often) go out with anyone other than my hubby. I have spent too many days in my life worrying what the hell I had said the night before, if anyone saw me pull a face over so and so etc.. it's not worth all the stress!!

To be honest if you think this just confirms what they already thought about you and it bothers you, then maybe there is something about your behaviour, attitude etc.. that needs changing? Although Ruby is also right, why should you change who you are?
If I were you I would keep my head down tomorrow at work, don't bring any part of the evening up in conversation like trying to apoligise for the way you were, you'll probably only end up digging yourself deeper somehow and maybe make things look worse. If your behaviour or the things you said are brought up, then just say something like;
"Yeah well I had way too much to drink, happens to us all at some point. I bet I looked a right twonk!" then just laugh along with the others and carry on with your work.
Unless you were totally offensive to anyone I wouldn't even bring it up to apoligise.

Failing that blame it on mixing drink with prescription drugs or something ;o)

[steve208]

hey thanks for the advice about work. I certianly didnt say anything offensive etc. Erm think will say sorry to the guy i went with as have to work with him all day anyway. Would prob be best to ask that we not talk about it etc.

i dont think i have an attitude prob as such but am v depressed so that can affect the way i am. Anyway will try to find more things to talk about and change attitude a bit at work.

[~Wingnut~]

Hi again Steve.

Honestly try not to let it worry you. By all means apoligise to the guy you went with and maybe even explain that you have been feeling down lately and of course that mixed with drink isn't a good combination etc.. I think so long as you don't act like your not bothered/sorry for your behaviour then people will just forget about it.
Please tho if your feeling depressed don't not do anything about it, maybe you need to see your Doctor or just have someone who you can confide in and have good chats. This could have been your cry for help to yourself!
Take care and keep your chin up :o)

[steve208]

thanks wingnut

i am trying to do something about depression. I had an assesment by a counsellor on friday just gone. So am on waiting list for counselling with nhs.

she advised tho that can get help from Connexions as am under 25...so will go to the local centre one day this week.

[Belle Fast]

Sweetie, you have hangover guilts on top of whatever else is going on in your life. That means you feel everything is worse than it really was and that life is hopeless (or not too good). Reassess it in the morning and try and cut out the booze til you feel better. Most folk at the party will have been drunk too, so some of it won't be so bad. If it comes up at work don't let on if there are bits you cant remember as people will make you feel worse then and can exagerate what you said (loads of folk cant stop themselves doing this and dont realise how bad it makes folk feel). If you decide to apologise for anything make sure its something worth apologising for or you just draw more negative attention.

Also remember, most folk worth knowing are not judgemental and are forgiving. Take care, we've most of us been there. It gets easier.