Unlucky in love..

[spk]

I met the most amazing man a month ago- he is absolutely perfect for me in every way, we got on brilliant, like that same things, he makes me laugh and is kind and compassionate etc etc. He says he feels the same about me. The catch is, he lives in Australia and Im just travelling here. I leave in 2 weeks to travel Asia for 5 months and then back home to the UK. I dont want to live in Australia, and he doesnt want to live in the UK, so clearly its not going to work out in the long run although we have both said how amazing it would be to have a relationship together. My question is, if everything happens for a reason, where is the reason for this one? I meet the most perfect person and I cant be with him due to circumstance? Its not fair ! Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated :O(

[girl_lesbian]

Slip him sum pills, pack him in your suitcase and lock him in ur basement...

The reason is to learn from it. You can grow and learn from every person you meet and every relationship you have. If you and this guy have no future :-( at least you are a little clearer on the kinds of qualities that are right for you. Plus its a little memory you now have that you can look back on and smile.

Surely you guys can keep in touch though?

What a sad love story! x x x

[jno]

is it circumstances that are keeping you apart, or just your own preferences? Many people have changed countries to be with someone they loved (including me). It can be done. But you don't want to? If neither of you rates the other highly enough to give up everything for them, fair enough, it's a lot to ask. Enjoy it while you can and, as g_l says, think about just what you want (someone less nice but closer to home?) and you'll be clearer next time about how to get it.

[kazzianne]

Maybe he could come over to the UK for a holiday and see how he feels?

[spk]

I already left a country and everyone behind to move to scotland and we split up after 7 years so I think Ive had my fingers burnt before. Thats what is stopping me from doing it again. I just wish we could have been in the same country at least to see how things developed but he is planning on coming on holiday Kazziane so we can see what happens there. Thanks guys for your posts xx I guess I will just have to wait and see what happens and just move on from it

[jno]

good luck! You have two weeks to enjoy yourself, and who knows who you'll meet in Asia?

[spk]

Thanks thats very true jno ! The best way apparently to get over a man is to get under another one ! Lol just kidding ! x

[Dipster]

Where are you travelling in Asia?

[spk]

Starting in Thailand- then Cambodia Vietnam and Laos Dipster.. Why prey tell?!

[Dipster]

Was just curious as I am living in China at the moment. Sounds like a top plan to me. How long have you been away from the UK? I bet ya don't miss the weather!!

[jno]

ditto to what dipster says - the weather in the UK has been vile... long, long winter, followed by clouds and rain, while the water companies are complaining about drought (because spring rain is used up by growing trees and grass, while there wasn't any winter rain that would have filled the reservoirs). You're not missing a thing. Just so's the bushfires in Oz don't get you, or the taipans or redbacks or rabid platypuses.

[spk]

China sounds amazing Dipster Ive always wanted to go there too.. Im in Melbourne at the moment JNO so its been freeeezing ! Will be nice to get to Asia and 30 degree heat ahhh ! I miss somethings in the UK alot like the food, my friends and family of course but I will be back there before I know it. Only got 6 months left and doing Asia obviously then India so it should be good. Funnily enough JNO we found a HUGE huntsman spider in our flat the other night I wont miss thos little blighters !!

[jno]

huntsman spider, brrr... well, give my love to the penguins, they're so cute.

[spk]

They are JNO Phillip Island is brilliant !!