My God, Anybody Got An Alzheimer's Parent At Home?

[DTCwordfan]

My sympathy, good luck - and how far along with yours? (some of you, I am aware of). Stories?

Despite oodles of patience, it has been seriously strained today.

1. No recognition that breakfast was on the table.
2. Back at 10.30, and breakfast is still there.
3. Mrs Misery emerges at 11.15, munches most of it back, damning comments over the coffee, even though a fresh one had been proposed.
4. We try an escape back home - lock down and back to bed.
5. Emerges at 2.15, not too bad and we go out to buy the animals flea juice and the dog, a new collar - he's in for an op tomorrow, a non-malignant tumour. "He'll be dead." - Great.
6. Tea out, babies present - ok. Back here around 4. To bed, emerges around 5, Mrs. Misery really set in. Disappears in a huff at 5.20, lock down again.
7. Up at 6.45, 'dinner's half-an-hour away.' Attempt to tell her not to feed the dog with the op ahead (I'll be on nervous sleep tonight) - "He's going to be dead like me" - she's 10 years in her, didn't appreciate me telling her she has no stick, doesn't need glasses, hearing aid, etc (maybe her taste buds have slipped).
8. Dinner 'the lamb is overcooked' - perfection to medium rare and all eaten. Vitriolic comment about sister 1.....phew.
9. Now effed off to bed again.

Good news, my dementia diary for the mater has been updated, the weather really crappy here for the day.

And naomi/jackdaw/Hans/svejk wonder if I am tired and emotional, which I wasn't last night.....Cheers, my dears, I'm certainly opening a new bottle tonight. Watch out!

[DTCwordfan]

and, as many will know, things do take a wee bit of time to drop into place.

Anyway fingers crossed and the immediate thing is the hound's op tomorrow - he's in for a non-malignant tumour off his butt tomorrow morning, early.....will let him sleep in my room (if he will) as then we can't have any early morning feeding if the mater roams (which is far from every night)......

[DTCwordfan]

Thanks, Psybbs......xx

[DTCwordfan]

and thanks, Tilly, being challenged is always valuable...I don't mean my mental state (Lol) but having the mental challenge to respond too or think about is important......xx

[naomi24]

//And naomi/jackdaw/Hans/svejk wonder if I am tired and emotional, which I wasn't last night//

I didn't say you were tired and emotional .... but for you the less said about last night the better. With regard to caring Alzheimer's sufferers, been there, done it, and got the T-shirt - as 'they' say. Indulgence and infinite patience....always.

[Zacs-Master]

Explains a lot DT. You must be under enormous mental pressure. Apologies for giving you some stick last night. You probably deserved a drink.

[Ann]

Just read your post DT, sorry not caught up with this recently as I had no or little internet due to Talktalk!

Feel so very sorry for you, it must be awful and very hard to imagine how to deal with it - nothing but admiration for people who do. Very scary as to what the future holds for all of us really .......

Hope your dog recovers very quickly too, that's another worry you don't need at the moment!

Sending you love and best wishes - will keep you in my thoughts and prayers x

[Bathsheba]

Best wishes from me also DT ;)

Baths
xxx

[bunkmoreland]

Have been where you are to a certain extent and it is the most gut wrenching way to live while you are living it:-( It's all just ghastly and down hill all the time. You are living off your nerves all the time. I would say that when my mother had to go into care ( she physically fell and the option was taken away), she was initially aware and very angry but that very quickly lessened and she actually gravitated to another lady who they both thought were each other's sister and they spent a lot of their time walking about together.