At The End Of My Tether!

[slinkycat]

A very long story that I will try to cut short. My brother met his wife and started a family relatively late in life,and had two children that my parents weren't expecting.
They had already enjoyed my children growing up and were delighted to find that they were grandparents again.
However, my brother has been at best indifferent, and at worst totally ignorant of my parents wishes to see their grandchildren.
I'm writing this because I saw my Mum today and she is, and has been in despair for the last 8 years.
She has not wanted me to "rock the boat" by saying anything to my brother ,what would you do?
Say *** and finally have it out with him, or just carry on ad finitum?

[jno]

grandparents have no rights. They've had their chance, with their own children. Parents can take the kids to see them or not, as they choose. If your brother has no idea his parents would like to see his children, tell hm. If he already knows then he's made his choice and nagging him will get you nowhere.

[jno]

PS this isn't really your affair and you might want to think carefully about getting involved in family friction. You don't have to take sides if you don't want to.

[Booldawg]

You don't have to dive in there. Maybe a bit more tact and diplomacy
and see if you can get to the root of why he is
not visiting with the kids and see if you can mediate in any way.

[NoMercy]

Is your brother estranged from your parents and have they ever seen his children?

[waterboatman]

i know how you feel Kate. But it is not for you to intervene my lovely. I know you want to, but it is really up to your brother. He may well have his own reasons for not wanting to. No doubt, however you will want to ask him. He may tell you or he may tell you to mind your own business.

Sadly, that's the way of it kate.

[murraymints]

say nowt to him in a direct manner..perhaps simply in passing that it would be nice to take the kids to see parents once in a while..but DO NOT jump in guns blazing

[Hypognosis]

@slinkycat

Does his wife get along with your parents and vice versa?

In such circumstances, doesn't one partner usually have to cave in to the other's wishes to avoid awkward/uncomfortable situations?

[chrissa1]

Every child should know their grandparents. Maybe you could say this to your brother.

My eldest granddaughter only knew her grandfather for three years before he died, but she still remembers "Poppa."

[anneasquith]

Tell your brother mum would love to see / have more contact with his children.