Rant

[jennyjoan]

Since I feel sorry for friends who have cancer (mine) - I send them a little email every cuppla days and I know they enjoy them as they tell me.

However I get a little angry in that they don't reply so sorry guys no more emails from me. Am I right. They are not well!!!

[Sqad]

Khandro....I agree about a get well card.....no reply needed, but an email is different.....it is like a letter.
There is illnesses and there are illnesses.If you have cancer one is not necessarily at death's door, in fact the majority are not and hence no excuse from not replying to an email.However those who may be drowsy, due to drug therapy etc one would not criticise a non response.

[Bathsheba]

JJ, I'm sorry if I'm included in this rant. I know I sometimes don't reply, but the fact that you are thinking of me is a great comfort.

Baths
x xx

[NoMercy]

Sometimes people can't get their heads around the fact that they have cancer. We frequenty refer patients to the Pyscholigist for counselling. Additionally chemotherapy is extremely cytotoxic and really can knock the stuffing out of people and even cause life-threatening neutropaenic sepsis which requires urgent admission.

Your friends may not be in a position to reply for a whole host of reasons. To withdraw moral support for a lack of replies is very harsh, JJ.

[ummmm]

I think you sound incredibly selfish, JJ.

[Bathsheba]

...and this is why I stopped reading or posting on AB ^^^^

[anneasquith]

Any of us who have known JJ on AB for some years would not describe her as selfish.

[anneasquith]

Nice to see you baths ( I don't need or expect a reply ) LOL.

[Bathsheba]

Ditto anne! And if I'm being honest,...this is the main reason I stopped coming here...


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[anneasquith]

Oh , don't let it bother you baths, I just ignore silly/negative posts. Keep popping in, so we know you are " well" . :-)

[ummmm]

Jeez...

[EcclesCake]

When folk are feeling unwell or low it is not at all unusual for them to shut themselves away. To receive emails is nice, insofar as it's nice to know you are being thought of. However, to feel obliged to respond to each and every one is onerous and just adds to their stress levels.

I am surprised that you cannot see this JJ given your own health issues. Perhaps you should back off with the me-me-me attitude and accept that your friends just don't feel up to responding according to your expectations, no need not to drop them a line though.

[Smowball]

Well said Eccles

[DTCwordfan]

Eccles has said something meaningful and you should note it - It's important to send messages in, JJ, and if I was standing in your shoes, I wouldn't expect anything back from my addressees - when a response does come through, that's good, sure. And if you can help pass on a little humour/sunshine, that's even better.