As Sunday Approaches

[queenofmean]

I feel sadder and sadder.

It would have been Nungates 60th birthday.

Dad and I are going to Chatsworth house as its somewhere she always wanted to go to - we both decided it was fitting that we went.

I'm struggling though, dads been working extra hours and late these week and we've not really seen much of each other and I feel so lonely. I haven't even wanted to do anything the last few days.

[jennyjoan]

my thoughts are with you Queenie - very sad indeed and your dad is probably burrowing his head in work to "avoid" this sad occasion.

[queenofmean]

Maybe jj - he's been covering for a chap that's on holiday at the moment. He isn't the emotional type though we have made suggestions on how she would have wanted us to spend the day - so that is what we are doing.

[Buenchico]

The Nungate who was so well-loved here was always full of fun. Don't allow yourself to be (too) sad but, instead, go out and celebrate her life when you visit Chatsworth (and raise a glass to her memory when you get home).

In particular, if you bump into a couple called Peregrine and Amanda, be sure to remark that you find Chatsworth 'a nice little place' but that it's nowhere near as grand as your own home ;-)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peregrine_Cavendish,_12th_Duke_of_Devonshire

[mazie]

Your Mum would love that queenie, but, she would hate you both being sad. I know my Mum would. That was her biggest worry, leaving and her three children being sad...So try and be happy for her and celebrate her life and all she gave you both. My thoughts and love are with you both. xxxx

[anneasquith]

Were it my children and husband Queenie, I'd hope they enjoyed their outing, celebrate her live and always know you were so special to her.

[Mamyalynne]

Make it a day of happy remembering, sounds like a lovely choice to visit.

If you stop for tea raise your pinky remember. x

[queenofmean]

Thank you Buenchico and Mazie.

I shall do my best.

I don't want to be sad and I know it's not what she would have wanted. I don't know if it's because of my 'hormones' that I'm feeling sad just now. I mean I am looking forward to going I really am.

[jennyjoan]

Queenie - it is natural to feel sad.

[queenofmean]

I will do my best :)

I'm not a lover of tea Mamya - will coffee do

[mazie]

You'll be amazing... and Coffee will do perfectly well xxx

[queenofmean]

Thank you Mazie :) xx

[Ann]

I'm thinking of you Queenie. I lost my Mum 2 yrs ago not long after a fantastic happy celebration for her 90th birthday. The first birthday afterwards was very hard but I took flowers to her grave and tried to remember all the happy times. I'm sure you had a lot of these Queenie as Nungate was such a lovely person. Sending my love to you - take care and keep strong X

[queenofmean]

Thank you Ann :) I do indeed. I knew it would be hard but wasn't sure how much.

If you still want to do a birthday thread for her then you have my blessing to do so. Will give me and dad a comfort I think

[Ann]

Of course I will Queenie, I will be pleased to remember her (gosh, hope I don't forget to post it now!!) I saw it was coming up to the date in my birthday book and was wondering whether to .... so glad you have agreed. :)

[queenofmean]

It would mean a lot :) I'm thinking about getting a few balloons (ones that are biodegradable) from work and releasing them at some point.

Just remember Sunday :)

[ummmm]

Queenie....it's natural to feel sad. Life goes on but anniversaries and birthdays stop us in our tracks x

[murraymints]

ah..big hugs Queenie.xxx ..29th would have been mum and dad's 60th wedding anniversary..gong out too !

[queenofmean]

Thank you ummmm...they certainly do.

Thank you too Minty...hope it goes well and that you have a fab time.

xx