Best Way To Stay In Touch With An Ex

[BEN.KING]

Ok, I split up with my ex gf nearly 3 months ago now. We had been together 6 months and it was pretty un expected when she suddenly decided we should just be friends. She did seem pretty adamant about this at the time, that she wanted us to stay in touch, even mentioning that one day we might get back together. We did kind of stay in touch for a bit, but I haven't heard from her for 6 weeks now and I'm wondering how best to approach it. I was thinking of writing to her, or should I just keep with the no contact for a while longer? Or just call it quits and move on, as hard as that is. On previous experience, staying friends with an ex has never worked.

[MallyJ]

If I was you I would accept that it is over and that her desire to remain friends was a way of taking the sting out of her decision. Being kind in a way. I am with you in that I am not sure of the wisdom of staying friends, particularly if one of the pair actually wants to carry on with the relationship, it can stop you from moving on. Put this behind you and get out and meet some new people. Good luck.

[Mamyalynne]

I agree, a six week silence seems to indicate she's moved on somewhat - now would be a great time for you to do the same.

I think staying friends can work but it has to be a two way street - be happy Ben.

[ummmm]

Call it quits and move on.

[andy-hughes]

Being friends with an ex can work, but it usually needs both of you to have new partners first, and each to be happy about that. If one of you holds out hope, it will never work.

If your ex has moved on, and it sounds like she has, then take Mammya's advice and do the same - if she contacts you again, have a think about how you want to proceed before you say anything.

[murraymints]

move on !

[joggerjayne]

Every relationship we have should be good.

Life is not just one good relationship, and then a load of disasters. Life should be a whole succession of good relationships.

So, when a good one ends ...

Don't feel that you have to go back to it.

Enjoy being free, until the next good one comes along.

Then, you'll be able to look back at your old relationship as "one of the good ones" ... rather than "the one that kept haunting me, even when it was over".

[woofgang]

The best way to stay in touch with an ex is not to.

[Peter Pedant]

call it quits and move on

sorry about this Ben
accept there are new people out there to meet
sport to get on with
and jobs to do

[yogi-bear]

Would suggest trying to send text message how she is....see if you get reply.....if not, cut loose, as sometimes it isn't going to work staying friends.

I have stayed good friends with many girlfriend's from the past, as they were just lovely but, for whatever reason, just not meant to stay together....but remain firm and good friends and some we still see at parties and functions, even one ex that is now a Building Society manager and advised my wife and I some savings accounts and options to take out for us and our 4 children. Some are really good friends with Mrs Bear, as I am with their partners/husbands
Mrs Bear has some too, but all live mainly in the USA, as we met there and she's American.

[Sqad]

She has got another bloke.
Next move is up to you.
Me? I would move on.

[BEN.KING]

Ok, thanks. To be honest I guess I kinda already knew what I had to do, but seeing it on here actually makes me feel better about the whole thing.