dna testing

[pepsi12]

PLEASE dont judge me....... i have a 12 month old son whos father i dont know who is. i was married and had an affair now my ex husband is requesting a dna test. my son has a da who loves him as his own. do i have any right in the legal system to refuse the test and any acces???? please help me......

[fat rascal]

have you thought about the citizens advice?..i'm not sure where you stand legally,sorry not been much help?

[JustSia]

Yes, you can refuse it but he can always go to court and obtain an order for it, especially if he is paying child support or is considering custody. Contact your solicitor or CAB asap.

S.

[NORMANTHEDOG]

i think you have a duty to your child,to do this.what would happen later in his life if he were to find out it was not his dad.you find out which one is his father for every ones sake.

[PinkFizz]

If you put your ex down on the birth certificate as the fayther and he is paying for child then yes,I would say he has a right,but if you didn't and you arent taking any money from him then I dont see he could insist.

[WillnRach]

More to the point at least the lad has a father who wants to know him, please do not let him be a statistic. He deserves better than that. And as for judging you, do not let it bother you, its the people who have failed that judge, you are a survivor and damn girl be proud of it.

[Beanmistriss]

I think everyone has the right to know who their biological parents are. He should have the chance of a relationship with his real father if he wants to and you can't give him that if you don't know. Also at some point he may need to know his biological parentage, like if he gets ill and need to know his family history :)

[noxlumos]

I know from personal experience that your natural parents are not always the best option. My natural father was violent and abusive and it wasn't until he died when I was seven that I finally started to have a father son relationship with anyone as his friend felt he should in some way make amends for the way in which my own father had treated me and in effect became my father, taking me fishing and doing all the things people do with their sons. It is this man that I consider to be my Dad, not the man who happened to have sex with my mother and physically bring me about, as he did me no favours whatsoever. If your child has a good father, genetic or otherwise, that's all that matters. You have no duty to your ex, but you do to your son, you have an obligation that his young life is as rich as possible, so if your ex is a nice guy and won't be a problem to any of you have the test, but if you think for a split second that he'll use this to the detriment of your family unit then refuse and stick to your guns.