disabled by violent crime

[daleroy]

has any one been disabled by a violent crime and what if any is the best way to deel with the psychological damsge it has caused
I ask becaus in 97 I was shot 9 times just for walking around a corner into a bad situation that I had nothing to do with but like they say wrong place wrong time. every since then I spent almost every day in my room convinced
the out side world is just to dangerous and with an unreasonable fear of leaving the house does any one know a better way of coping besides hiding

[PullMyFinger]

wow, That is something really harsh to go through. I guess all you can do is bite the bullet and go out side.. Start with finding a group of people who meet that have been victimised and have a similar issue.
My baby and I almost died giving birth and I never wanted to have another child because of what we went through.. I was messed up over it for a long time.. then with out planning it (years later) I got pregnant again and had a really good time, though I was freaked something bad might happen. (nothing bad did happend second time around)
I hope you get through it daleroy.. Im sure the world would like to see your face again.

[SizzleSquid]

i had a good answer for you, and lost it somewhere on system--will write one later, look out for it.

[Dollie]

daleroy - so sorry to hear about your dreadful experience. Ask your doc to refer to your a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist - most NHS hospitals have such a specialist. Using deep psychotherapy and other interventions, they will get you to look differently about what happened to you. They will challenge your irrational beliefs - which are that its safer to hide because the world is a bad place and if you stay in your house you won't get shot again - and by challenging these beliefs can get you to change your thinking. CBT is a really effective and quick way to bring about change in a person's thinking. They will almost re-programme your mind just by talking to you. All the best of luck in the world. Doll xx

[PinkFizz]

I have just read your question - what a truly awful experience.Makes my own silly problems just pale into insignificance.I don't really have any advice apart from what you have already been given,which is very good.All I can say is that if you are even down or low,then come on here and there will alway be somebody to chat to and listen to you.Big hugs and kisses.xx

[daleroy]

yep thats what I have been doing over the last several days even if I start a topic like polotics and take a side of a discussion I know will get people to respond.
it makes it as if I'm not in my house but actually out and about talking to prople