Flowers At Cremation

[237SJ]

My Mum`s sister is being cremated this week. Her daughter has only told me the details of where and when it will take place. I will ask her if there is a charity that donations can be sent to but I feel I would like to 'give' my aunty a bunch of flowers. Not a formal funeral spray with a message as such, just a bunch of flowers. Trouble is, I don't know if she is being interred after the event or if my cousin is going to collect and scatter the ashes and I don't think it is appropriate to ask her at this stage. I don't know who the funeral directors are either. What would you do?

[ummmm]

Both my grand parents were cremated, as per their wishes, and there were no flowers involved on the day.

[mikey4444]

If you want to take some flowers, then go ahead and do so !

[naomi24]

Eddie, I'd be very surprised if the flowers at any crematorium are thrown away immediately after the mourners leave. Some people go back days after the event to look at the flowers. They're usually left on display until they're wilting.

[melv16]

The only flowers I've taken to a funeral are those of my parents. Otherwise, I make a donation to the charity of their choice.
It's not a capitol offence to make a mistake!

[mikey4444]

Funerals are for the living, not the dead. I have been lots of funerals over the last couple of years....far too many !

But I have always enjoyed seeing the beautiful floral displays.

[woofgang]

naomi, when my Mum was cremated, we were told (nicely) at the crematorium that the flowers would be removed immediately after the service as they had no room to keep them. We were invited to take anything that we wanted to keep. The undertakers had also mentioned this. I guess it may vary from establishment to establishment.

[ummmm]

Mikey - what about the deads wishes? My dad and uncles asked to gift the money to charity.

[mikey4444]

Ummm...we can do both can't we ?

[naomi24]

woofgang, I guess it does vary then - but I've never been to a crematorium where that happened.

[hereIam]

When my beloved Dad and then Mum were cremated, the family flowers were left at the crem for several days. There was a large enough space for this and for others to be placed there as well. It seems from the posts that it varies from place to place, but I would have been mortified if they had been thrown away straight after the funerals.

[flowersandsympat]

I think naomi24 is right. You can take the flower with you to the funeral. It is good to take them rather going empty handed.

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