She is not getting on well with her hubby at all,he won't let her go out,and has now started calling her a fat c*nt!!! He won't lift a finger to help with their 4 kids and even rang her when she was at Tesco's lastnight to say one of HER kids was playing up and to get home! She is terrified of being left with no money,and thinks her kids will hate her if she leaves him.She has asked him to go for just a few days to give them some space to think and he has refused,saying its his house.
He is a disgrace to men. It is arses like him who give men a bad name. She needs to dump him. She can come and live with me! There are women's refuges she could go to if desperate, but in the meantime, she just needs to start to organise herself. This happened to my sister, and she got as far as filling in the council house application form before her horrible bloke realised she was serious, and actually DID change his ways.
If she is confused, tell her to go to the citizen's advice bureau, who will tell her where she stands. He may be the breadwinner, but if she leaves him, he will still have to support the kids and her.