babies bad tempered

[weggy]

Hi i have a 10 month old baby girl (my second child) who basically has been unsettled from the day she entered this world. with refux she is 10 months old she will hardly go to anyone else.
she is my little shadow everywhere i go she follows crawling behind( i try not to keep picking her up ).
although she is funny and beautiful and we adore her she is extreemly bad tempered (in our eyes) but my health visitor said that she is carrying out normal behaviour !!
She smacks, nips,pulls hair,throws her drink and toys at you if she does not want them, and if she wakes up in the night she screams for 1- 3 hrs i have done cc so do not comfort her physically but do check on her as recommended.
She seems to be full of mischief always up to no good and deliberatly goes for things that she knows will get are attention.
Are gp says that she is foward in herself and very clever, she certainly knows how to get our attention.
We just find her hard work most days as she cries alot full volumme foghorn never little sobs,the throwing things if she dos not want them through temper, nd carries out the smacking and nipping daily.
We always tell her no and do not spoil her by picking her up too much. All my family including my sister in law who has got 7 kids says they have never seen anything like it as even from newborn and being a young baby she never went to anyone.
Should we ignore her throwing things etc is the little monkey trying to get our attention or is she just one of those ill tempered darlings that will stand in the shop at two and stamp and quick her legs and embarass me like anything when she gets older help any advice from anyone in the same situation.
thanks

[tiebreaker]

my eldest daughter was like this you have to have a lot of patience which no doubt you have got , you have to give her boundaries and stick to them this will make her feel secure but you have to stick to them she will react at first but it will pay off in the end constructive play between the two of you will help getting down at her level spend time each day doing this. she sounds a very clever girl and they can be one jump ahead of you.ignore the bad behavior and praise the good as she gets older you can use the star system or a small reward and relax it will be o.k. in the end if she sees you have other things to do sometimes go ahead other times you can include her in them. but be firm and loving we all have differant personality,s even babies and children. my daughter is now 40 and she has three children so she turned out o.k. hope all goes well. and dont worry.

[weggy]

hi thankyou for your answer makes alot of sense will praise the good as you say and then she will concentrate on the good and not bad,she certainly has a mind of her own but very clever thanks for your help
angie