Unwanted Attention

[cassa333]

I am getting a little exasperated by all this #metoo stuff.

This woman http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-bristol-41951618 says she has had unwanted attention from him for years and 'doesn't respond and hasn't encouraged him in any way'. But I wonder did he write to her in the way he did because she didn't put a stop to it?

If it had been going on for so long, why? A simple 'come on you silly boy stop it this isn't appropriate' a few times and 'would your wife like to see these letters' would likely have made him stop and think but to say nothing doesn't let him know you don't want the attention.

Did he regard it as 'office banter' and in view of not being told to stop it knew no better?

I'm not saying she hasn't been harassed in some way but if someone does something for many years without getting a slap (metaphorical or not) then why not?

[ummmm]

It is creepy.

My daughter was outside a pub having a cigarette and the doorman asked her could he borrow her phone. She gave it to him. He used her phone to call himself and now he sends her messages by text and whatever social media he uses. During the week he sent her a song 'ain't nobody (loves you better)'

She has not replied to him once.

[EDDIE51]

^ She should complain, Doormen have to be registered and behaviour such as this would see him lose his registration and job! . Doorman must have official photo ID and must produce it if asked. It will have the details of how to complain on it.

[Islay]

Eddie if she complains she will be targeted as others have been for jumping on the bandwagon.
Such a shame when women are expected to shut up and take abuse.

[EDDIE51]

If a complaint is made the doorman will NOT be told who made it.
That is a basic rule of the procedure.

[EDDIE51]

Islay ^ I am talking specifically about ummmm's daugheter's problem with the doorman, not about unwanted attention in general.

[ummmm]

Eddie - I work for a security firm.

[EDDIE51]

^ Then you know the procedure !

[Islay]

Yeah Ummm Security firm is the type with Irish accents, sawn off shotguns and balaclavas.
I am sure she knows the procedures.

[ummmm]

Yes, Eddie, but it's not happening to me. She's not phased by it but I can understand why others are. It's not necessarily harassment but it's certainly enough to make people feel awkward and uncomfortable.

[EDDIE51]

^^ ?

[EDDIE51]

That was to Islay's somewhat strange answer!

[Islay]

I give up!!

[douglas9401]

Hurrah!

[ducksie]

I got it Islay!! and laughed ;)

Sometimes it takes a person a while to realise it is not only them that something is happening too so jumping on the bandwagon is realising it's ok to speak out and the first to do so was great imo
Ummmm that's concerning about your daughter, I have a call blocker on my mobile, it's brilliant, you should advise your daughter to get similar and only takes calls from regular wanted calls/texts or messenger

[Islay]

Thanks ducksie
Douglas go boil yur heed

[ducksie]

My Irish wit Islay ;)

looking at that link, he was a creep, I'd not accept letters and cards like that, I'm amazed she stayed working there, it must have been horrid for her