Starting To Dislike My Boyfriend's Family Am I Wrong

[Jocyg1738]

So my boyfriend's mom wanted us (my one month old daughter and I) to go over to eat at her house a few weeks ago since we weren't spending Thanksgiving with them but I kindly declined to go because my boyfriend's brothers including his step dad smoke weed in the house and will definitely not have my daughter around that environment. Not only did she get upset but also his siblings at the fact that I said that I wouldn't go until they stopped smoking in the house. I know she's my daughters grandma but I feel like she doesn't respect my daughter or me at all and only cares about seeing her and not her well being. Because if she did she would understand why I will not take my daughter there. If I remember health class correctly when you smoke in a home the smell also attaches to the furniture, curtains, etc. Am I wrong for starting to feel some hate toward them?

[murraymints]

I would be the same..your daughter is your priority..they know your terms..which are entirely acceptable in my opinion

[Mamyalynne]

Stand your ground, no need to form or express it as hatred - just stay calm and state the facts.

[TWR]

Your Daughter, her life,
Your Daughter, Her Health,
Your Daughter, you look after her not them,
they would soon be on your back if you smoked weed & they didn't.

[Mamyalynne]

Let us know how things go Jocyg.

[Smowball]

I completely agree with you not wanting to take her there in that situation.

[aelmpvw]

i would have thought that it was obvious that a house where several people smoked weed wasn't a suitable environment for a one month old baby

[anneasquith]

She can visit you if she wishes to see her granddaughter .