Sexual Abuse By Women?

[EDDIE51]

With all the current new about sexual abuse of women by men , I just want to ask if any males have experienced sexual abuse by a woman?

[-Talbot-]

Either the mod removing answers got bored halfway through the thread or has favourites.

[anneasquith]

Not every category is chatterbank. Were I so anti moderators on AB there is no way I'd participate, just leave .

[EDDIE51]

I was first going to put this in Chatterbank, but realised that I would only get joke answers, that is why I changed the category.
No it is not just me asking for 'titillating' answers it had a serious purpose. I have been worried that this subject has been hidden or dismissed as rubbish when it is a real problem, as my ex work colleague's story illustrates.
I am also starting to think that all the recent publicity over male abuse of women is going to make the subject of female abuse of males even more non PC and more hidden than it is now.

[Mamyalynne]

Although I can partly understand why they don't ( we don't have to look far ) , if more men spoke out then it would greatly help others.

The stigma of being seen as weak or unable to handle situations has to be trashed, it's gone on too long.

[jno]

I agree, Mamya. The essence of all this abuse is that it's done by those with power over those without, whether it's wannabe actresses or just the office juniors, the ones who dare not protest. The law ought to be standing up for the weak.

[anthro-nerd]

Did anyone watch that program on male survivors on male rape? It was on BBC: http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p05ncndj

Really horrific. Any abuse is horrific, it's good to see such bravery with these men coming forward.

[anthro-nerd]

Mamya, in the doc I mentioned (above) they talk about the feeling of shame, and how shame stops them talking about it. One man said admitting it wasn't his fault was to admit that he was powerless in that situation, and therefore to take the blame for part of it gives some kind of control back to the victim. So sad.

[Mamyalynne]

Yes it is sad, and as you say it hands back power to the abusers knowing that the shame still exists - that has to change.

[anthro-nerd]

I agree.

One man talks about being raped for 6 hours in a layby, only to return to his wife completely mortified and unable to tell her what had happened, it was a week before his first child was born.

Another was raped in the toilets.

It's just awful how people can think that abusing others is something they can get away with.

The police advised to be seen within 72 hours for forensic evidence, and then they can press charges later when they have come to terms with what's happened, as many will still be in shock.

It was a very difficult watch, that documentary, very honest.

[anotheoldgit]

Something we hear very little about is sexual abuse amongst the homosexual fraternity and sexual abuse amongst the lesbian fraternity, surely it must take place?

[Mamyalynne]

I'm sure it must do AOG, the need for power is not confined to any one section of society.