Drunk

[Lezzelb]

Does anyone believe the old saying "when your drunk the truth always comes out"??? I had yet another weekend of drunk texts from my ex declaring exactly what he would like to do to me but in the cold light of day resorts back to "ooh im sorry for that ... shouldnt have said all these things ... etc etc". I could forgive him if it happened once or twice but this must be about the 20th time. We have been apart just over a year and are still in touch by text but he never seems to follow it through ... MEN!!

[China Doll]

Do you want him to follow it through? If so, perhaps you should just tell him that and see what happens.

Not sure about the truth coming out but inhibitions certainly go down and I get more interested in doing what's fun rather than what is necessarily sensible...

Can you not ask him straight out when he's sober what he actually wants and why he does this?

[teag1rl]

no, I don't believe that when you're drunk the truth always comes out. it might do, but along with a right load of old b*llocks too. I do however firmly believe when you're drunk you sometimes get horny and stupid. If he annoys or upsets you just ignore him-it might make him want you when he's sober, but if you're happy reposnding to his drunken texts, carry on, do whatever suits you.

[Supernick]

It's a tricky one.
I don't think that drink makes you do anything that you would NEVER do sober, it only lowers the inhinbitions you usually stop you from doing things. Most of us have the potential for violence in us somewhere, but sober we can keep it all under wraps. In some people it may come out when you're drunk. The desire for an ex is in you somewhere, but in the cold light of day is mixed more with other emotions that make you not want them so much. So 'truth' might be wrong word to describe it, 'potential' might be better. Usually in a bad way.

[Sphinx_Svens]

If it's offensive to you ...go straight to the Police ..they will act on it.

[Champagne]

I would be losing my temper with him by now. Whether you want to do those things with him or not it's the closure that you're not getting. If it were me, I'd probably be replying along the lines of, "Yeah... whatever. Go and drink yourself into a stupor you f?&!*% w&!�%&*! c&%*)$&!^)*�!!!!!!"

It would certainly put an abrupt stop to the flirting that night. :o\

[jedimistress]

My friend was a sex pest when drunk. By text and by phone. I ended the friendship in the end, because after loads of apologies it would happen again.

My ex is a drunk and left nasty, slurred messages each night at 2am. Selfish beach for not answering my phone etc. I got tired of listening to them when I woke in the mornings and he is now my ex. Depsite not remembering what he says it made no difference to me in the end having to listen to it.

IMHO the truth does not come out when your drunk, although it may help ease up conversation and views a little. Wjen you are too drunk to remember I think it's just waffle and emotion.

[Lezzelb]

Thanks for the replies so far. My big problem with it is that he backtrackes so much the following day - ie from declaring undying love to "just forget it"! Complete opposites. I can accept it happening maybe once or twice but when it continues to happen and over a year down the line it just makes me totally confused. I just dunno what to believe anymore.

[Drusilla1S]

I think you would be better off deciding this relationship is over for good and severing all ties. I'm not sure he is consciously trying to be controlling, but that is what is happening in reality. It is for you to say enough is enough. Change your number and move on for your own well being and start to enjoy life with a decent partner who will treat you in a more mature and considerate manner at all times.

[atolhurst]

I would ask him to stop and if he can't, ask him to remove your number from his phone to avoid the temptation.

Explain that the stark contrast in the tone of his messages is rather confusing. And so if he's got something proper and meaningful to say, you'd like to hear it now. But if he hasn't, then could he please stop with the cr*p as you'd like to move on.

[froggo]

i think tha when your drunk you say and do all the things that your to polite or inhibited to do when sober also when your drunk the consequences for your actions dont come into the equasion so the answer is yes it probably is the truth but now he is sober and hes thought about what hes done/said the old concsience has advised him other wise
tell him not to ring when hes drunk or hang up when he phones and sound like hes had one to many

[WendyS]

People who are regularly drunk become exremely unreliable and unpredictable and are often on the slippery road to alcoholism. Since that is a state from which few people seem able to recover the best thing to do is to ignore them, not respond and eliminate them from your life.