house keeping

[debsoutho]

I live with my partner and his son, his son gives us 25.00 a week. That pays for his 'keep', all his washing, pack up, anything he finds in the cupboards, snacks etc. Its up to him to keep his room clean and tidy. He works full time and earns good money, what do you think he should pay?

[Ethel]

At least one third of his take home pay.

[PinkFizz]

look in parenting - there is an almost identical question.

[PinkFizz]

I can't find it now!! Maybe it was you who posted the other question but anyway,I agree with Ethel.Or else get him to check out the price of local flats,cost of shopping etc and that should shock him!!

[debsoutho]

Crickey. He is certainly taking us for mugs then!! Didnt think it was a lot he was giving us, and he thinks hes hard done by!!!! Thanks

[Sphinx_Svens]

How much would he have to pay if he lived on his own? ... ask him that

[Ethel]

Traditionally it was a third for keep, a third to save and a third to spend for adult children living at home.

[JudgeJ]

Completely agree with Ethel.

�25 a week is a ridiculously small sum to contribute and you and your partner are subsidising his son to an alarming degree.

[Champagne]

I'm sure he's not taking you and your partner for mugs, debs. He sounds quite shrewd to me!! Simply up his rent and if he doesn't like it he can get his own place and move out!

In my humble opinion �25 is okay, but excluding all the fringe benefits! Have you got a spare room that I can rent? :o)

[debsoutho]

He did move out at one point - not over money but over other issues, it was bliss!!! No cleaning up after him, especially when he gets baths, doesnt clean anything. Anyway, His dad let him keep the key and lo and behold he was in everyday once we had gone to work and made his packing up!!!!!! Then came home from work one night and he'd decided that he had moved back in!!!! I was livid, but my partner didnt say anything. I know he is torn between me and his son, but surely I have some say since I pay half of everything, mortage(even though my name isnt on it), gas -electric etc

[WendyS]

Well, maybe you stop paying your half of the mortgage and arrange for your partner's son to pay it.!

Alternatively, add up all your monthly household expenses and divide them by three, instead of two. Then your stepson will get a better idea of what it actually costs to run the house.

[nicnicnic]

I pay my mum about 1/5 of my take home wages. I know my firends pay a similar amount, although I have to privde my own lunch at work. I cant really afford to pay any more than this, but I think its a fair, so dont feel like i'm scrouging, but mum doesnt feel that she's taking too much money from me and so doesnt feel guilty. I do my own washing etc though! I think thats pretty fair. I also pay �10 a month more when the cost of living increase comes in, which although it isn't much, is a little bit extra each month!

[kazza12345]

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Money_and_Finan ce/Question259393.html

[lynlockwood]

If he earns a good salary then you should insist he either goes thirds with you on all bills or if you're feeling charitable insist he saves his third towards a deposit for a house/flat. What is he doing with the rest of his money? He must be living the high life!

[PinkFizz]

thats it kazza!! I knew I had seen something similar!