Hats At Funerals

[Barmaid]

Does anyone wear them anymore? I normally wear a hat to a wedding, but never have done for a funeral. But then I'm lucky enough never to have been a prominent part of a funeral before.

I've got a funeral coming up (Mr BMs father) and it's going to be quite a big one and I am quite conscious that I'll be "on display" and the one of the main hosts to the wake. Clearly, I do not want to let Mr BM Snr or Mr BM down.

I've got a 50s style dress, jacket, clutch bag and heels - I have entered a much more feminine stage in the last 18 months. Is a pill box hat with a tiny net too much do you think? (Although a friend of mine suggested a full veil so I can get shedded at the wake and no one will notice my eyes.............) I quite fancy one, but dont know if it is "too much".

Views, please?

[jennyjoan]

BA to you Chris.

[Barmaid]

Lol, that's quite funny, Chris. Perhaps we should start at "what not to play at funerals thread".

Although when trying to speak to the Coroner's Officer last week I had some stroppy cow on the switchboard trying to tell me what their roles were "He has to confirm the fact of death" so I couldnt resist saying "He's been in a bloody fridge at the hospital for two weeks I should have thought the fact of death was obvious".

[MallyJ]

Jackie O is back in fashion now because her clothes were stylish and ladylike...but not on me..I look like a cross between mama cass and Janis Joplin...no amount of nice clothes would make me look anything other than an old hippie...! Oh and I wore black when I married....

[Tilly2]

I have so many scarves of different colours that I've bought to go to funerals where it's been stated... Please wear something...red, yellow, pink, green, orange purple, blue. :-)

[cashier]

I think a pill box with a small net sounds very dignified. I've been to two funerals recently my brother's m-i-l and my neighbour's 38 year old son. I don't have any black clothes except trousers, so just wore those, a top and my red coat (which is very smart). Nobody minded, and at the funeral of the young man everybody had to wear red as he was a massive Liverpool supporter.

[NoMercy]

There's nothing wrong with being glamorous at a funeral.

[johnny.5]

I think the best song
living in a box
would be a very good way of getting the last laugh

[choux]

A pill box will only take a miniature or, at best, a quarter bottle. However, a hat with a full crown might hold a half bottle.

As for clutch bags, you must be joking - you can no longer buy a packet of 10 cigarettes.

BTW - nets mean you have to cut a larger hole for the ciggie.

[woofgang]

BM sorry for my stupid goof

[anneasquith]

Funerals are for mourning/ celebrating someone's life, I wouldn't fret too much about what wear,

[Barmaid]

Woof, dont worry at all! You know it takes a heck of lot to offend me and a simple unintended mistake wouldnt.

[choux]

Phew!

;)

[rowanwitch]

If you are a hat person then yes, if you are uncomfortable in hats then no. No veil unless you are a young widow .