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Thank you again Tamborine, I have looked at this from my sister's point of view which is why I am trying to let go of my frustration and some anger. I guess mum was being cowardly in telling all and sundry how disappointed she was with my sister's lack of interest, although she made it clear on video over the past couple of years. I purchased a property specifically for her to live in rent free so that she was close by. For the last four years, I cooked, shopped, medicated, attended appointments, paid bills and took her out places, I eventually did laundry, and bathed her. All for the most part with love and respect, not for payment although this money will go towards considerable outlay from me. Yes my sister has a job and I don't, she lives 1/2 hour away but nobody wanted her to do anything other than stay in touch on a regular basis. Without me and my daughter, mum would definately have needed residential care in latter years so it's likely that a huge chunk of her estate would have been gone in home fees anyway. I guess I will wait to see what sister plans to do and take it from there. Thank you for listening and advising. Chris