I Wish I Was Born A Boy??

[shuichisaihara]

I'm 15 years old and for most of my life I've felt out of place. I absolutely hate my gender and body- I just wish I had a penis and no breasts,,, not as wide of hips or as short of a height. I just wish I was either a boy, or happy with myself. It's getting to the point where I don't see the reason in living this way anymore. I feel like I'm at this massive all time low and I don't know what to do.

I've spoken to my mom about this many times and she thinks I'm just self conscious,

Opinions??? Help??? Thanks

[murraymints]

you need to speak to some kind of child psychologist..via your doctor..ask your mother to arrange an appt

[rowanwitch]

Talk to your family doctor, although there is a long wait for counselling if you are young it is worth getting some professional help. It may be you have a real gender issue, in which case the sooner you get into the system the better and clarifying your thoughts and feelings is a first step.
You may have a long and difficult path ahead but if you want to live a happy life it may be you need to start it soon.

I would add however you are still quite young and still forming your identity. It might be your wish to be male comes from a need to have more power, especially if you are from a culture that does not value girls, in this case too, counselling will help.

[MallyJ]

Are you in the US? I ask because you use the American mom rather than the British Mum. If you are in America then the same advice applies...get your mother to make a doctors appointment for you so that you can be referred for counselling to find out just what is troubling you....in the Uk I think that you can have a doctors appointment just by setting yourself up with one...of course always better to involve your mum! Counselling may help you get to the root of you unhappiness and start to work improving your self esteem. Teen years can be difficult as we sort out just who we are...good luck

[Old_Geezer]

Your gender is less important than your acceptance of yourself and getting the most out of life. If you can get counseling then perhaps you can work out why you feel it's so important. You can/will still be you, regardless. Take the advice of those who've posted above. Talk it over with someone who knows what you are going through.

[rowanwitch]

Spath, one thing that is relevant is if this is a genuine case of gender dysphoria it is better to start hormone treatment early. If the OP is from the U.S. it is not uncommon for medication to be used to delay puberty or at least pause it making surgery easier later on.

[anthro-nerd]

I agree with a lot of the advice here. Make a doctors appointment, talk to a therapist, and if they are in agreement with you, then begin hormone therapy. But don't worry, there's a lot of supportive steps before then that could lead you down a different path.

What's important is that you are not alone, you just need to speak to the right people who will understand what you're going through. Stay strong, and talk to a doctor. It is all going to be okay!

[kvalidir]

Ok well if you do have gender dysphoria that can be dealt with, and you live in a great time for better acceptance so actually although I'm sure you feel lonely and isolated and as if nothing will ever be right, that's not the case and you are very early on in your life at the moment, loads of time for all the stages in transitioning to happen if that's what you choose, but firstly excellent advice from everyone, especially Rowan and OG go and get some proper help and counselling and make sure that your position on your sexuality isn't coloured by anything other than your genuine gender dysphoria. don't feel things are hopeless, everything will get so much better, it won't always be easy but it is possible so shine your light and be who you need to be, but do it in a way that makes your life in the meanwhile as easy as it can be and take the proper steps so that you can begin hormone treatment early because as Rowan says that's really helpful. xx