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Thanks for all the answers.
In terms of there being masses of perfectly fine music out there, and the places to hear it, I am of course completely aware of both of them thank you.
I am equally aware, as I was at pains to point out, that I know pop music per se is not aimed at me, but that has never stopped me appreciating it, even if I don't enjoy it personally - that is a pre-requisite of my profession as a music journalist.
My point is, that the sound of modern pop is so much uglier than it has ever been previously, it's not that I don't like it, which I don't, it's that the actual sound is unpleasant to hear, with the distorted vocals, nasal singing, dropping and raising ranges, and effects, it simply grates terribly on me.
However, we all enjoy different things, and amen to that.