I depised both my parents and even though they lived about half a mile away I never visited them. I did not attend their golden wedding party and did not attend either of funerals and I can appreciate how these two siblings feel. I, on the other hand, would not even have wasted the money for the obituary for them. My five brothers and sisters attended and all respected my decision and it has not caused any problems between us.
naomi I think that depends on whether you take your revenge and let it go or whether you hang on to it and let it fester....hopefully this act has enabled the abandoned children to finally let go of their feelings.