Stress Help!

[LRob]

In the space of a month, I've lost my job, my partner's dumped me and I have to move out of the home we've shared for six years.

I'm trying desperately to keep my stress levels under control, and so far it's been working. Now I'm starting to feel the pressure...anyone have any advice for keeping cool in tough situations like mine?

[mnko]

talking helps relive stress and there are loads of people on here you can talk 2. they will give u sound advice

[PhilBy]

Stress is an awful thing, is there nothing you can do take your mind of the situation for an hour or two? Even if you just go to the cinema to a watch a new release or something similar it just may allow you to forget about the stress, & give your head a much needed rest.

[LRob]

Thanks mnko and Phil - I seem to have tried everything! He's gone away for the weekend so I'm on my own and finding it hard to take my mind off things.

[~Wingnut~]

My word LRob, I'm not suprised your feeling the pressure!! That is a lot to have happen to you in a lifetime nevermind all in one go in a month!!
I think you need to take a step back and try to put things in order and deal with them that way, rather than trying to cope with them all at once.
Firstly try to find somewhere else to live (it only has to be temporary whilst you get the rest in order) Get a friend to help you pack and make things as quick as possible. Once that is sorted you have a fixed address for the new job your going to go for. Again this only has to be temporary whilst you get your life back on track and have some money coming in to help you on your way.

Things will seem so bad at the moment but believe me keep your cool, don't be afriad to have a little cry and let it all out. Good luck! :o)

[Drusilla1S]

As you have no job or relationship ties, pack a rucksack, grab some cash, your passport and see how far round the EU you can get. (No visa's or jabs required)

Do casual work on the way, meet new people and begin to learn that much of the stress in our lives is because we attempt to live according to societal rules that sometimes need ignoring to remind us how great life can be.

[PhilBy]

That is the problem with stress LRob, your mind will be going over & over the same bad thoughts & it will achieve nothing other than make you feel ill. You are doing nothing wrong by thinking 'stuff this' and give yourself a couple of hours off ................. Jump in the shower, put some music or whatever, just give your head a rest from the constant thinking and then remeber how much better it feels :)
It wont make your problems go away but hopefully help you cope a little bit better .................... You have a new beginning in front you with new things to do & new people to meet .................... Lucky you :)

[maxi29]

LRob

About 15 years ago I had a long-term relationship break-up, saw my own small business collapse and, worst of all, suffered the death of my father - all of these happened within six months.

The answer I had then, was to throw myself into more and more work to try to dull the pain. Fortunately, a good friend suggested that I go away on holiday before I killed myself through over-work; she whisked me away for a break and It was amazing what a week away did for me: I calmed down, cut back on my work and within a couple of months met someone and started a new relationship.

I hope your friends are looking out for you but the advice of taking a break and trying something different sounds a good one to me.

[WendyS]

You have a lot of pressure right now It's not surprising you are feeling the pressure. First I'd concentrate on finding somewhere else to live which will get you away from the stress of seeing your ex partner every day and the difficult atmosphere. Phone every friend and family member you you know and ask if any of them know anywhere you can stay temporarily (one of them might offer you a temporary bed) or get yourself a bedsitter until you can find somewhere more permanent. Then concentrate on finding a job. Trying to concentrate on several priorities at once will only add to your stress. Try and keep your alcohol intake to a minimum as it doesn't help in the long term, but taking some regularly exercise may help. Hope everything sorts itself out soon.

[LRob]

THANK YOU everyone for your thoughts. It's almost the end of the day now, and my mind's been off the probs for a good few hours now. Not that they'll go away in a hurry, though....

I've even signed up to a flatshare website and have some phone numbers for accommodation.
Thanks, again. x

[angeldraws]

Hi LRob - I'm not trying to trivialise your rough patch but just remind yourself constantly that 'worrying doesn't change anything' - but YOU do have the power to move forward - try to see this time as a challenge, a new path, and CHOOSE to move forward. I'm not sayimg it's easy but you can choose how to respond to situations/
circumstances...
Do all those things you ever wanted to that you were restrained from doing when in your old job/with your ex and enjoy it. Don't forget to pamper yourself a little - you so deserve it when this sort of thing happens. Try to keep smiling too. xx