baby sister

[babscartland]

My 6 year old son is so spitefull to my 18 month daughter.i cant even go to the toilet without him harming her in one way or another.
im constantly screaming at him to leave her alone but he just screams back at me ,the minute my backs turnt hes on to her. School hols now and im dreading it,any advice??

[B00]

Try reading this, it might help. And good luck!
xxxx

http://www.bbc.co.uk/parenting/your_kids/toddl ers_siblingrivalry1.shtml

[beejaybee]

He`s bound to be jelous of the baby. He had you all to himself for over 4 years, but then along comes this other person that he has to share you with. Your daughter is also at the stage where she`s into everything, so he probably hates it if she touches his things.

[beejaybee]

Ps. Could be he`s attention seeking & by being "naughty" he gets it, even if it is you shouting at him. Have you thought that the little one may be the one who "starts it". Kids can be so sly.

[noxlumos]

Smother him with attention, as that's all he craving.He's six so he knows he shouldn't really be doing this and doubtless inwardly he feels all of those nasty negative guilty emotions that little kids feel and as anyone whose ever expereinced jealousy will tell you it's an awful feeling and too much for a little lad to deal with easily.
IMHO you need to devote (very obviously and enthusiastically) much more attention to him. Let him see how special he is to you and ask for his help and reward him for it. Thank him and treat him in a much more grown up manner and shift the attention from the little one for a while as much as you can.Make the clear distiction between them. He is older and special in his own way. She is littler and needs HIS help, protection which you then reward him for in a really enthusiastic way.
We've got a very large family and this method really works for us.