I'm 15 Should I Come Out To My School?

[LiamLaw]

I'm scared to come out to my school cause im scared people won't accept me

[Baldric]

Only you can decide when is the right time.

[Baldric]

What Country are you in?

[Mamyalynne]

As Baldric says, it's your decision - do you feel you need to?

Can you not just be you and they accept you as you are, sometimes making a big thing of it in your head is worse - how are things with your family?

[DarceyK123]

Why do you feel you need to?

It's no business of theirs.

[Georgiesmum]

I dont think you need to.

[Georgiesmum]

Just be yourself.

[Old_Geezer]

Your choice, but why either hide or reveal how you feel ? It's your personal business anyway. As for non-acceptance, there will always be fools but there are those who understand what is and is not important anyway. People and life are varied like that. As Bakdric implied, location can make a difference. Generally speaking I reckon the UK tends not to care much any more. Some other countries differ. I'd suggest waiting and letting trusted folk know when you feel you want them to.

[Old_Geezer]

BALDRIC !

[Kromovaracun]

It really depends. I never came out at school (although in hindsight I think it was bleedin obvious to everyone but me). But we don't know whereabouts you are or what your circumstances are. Do you perhaps have a trusted friend you could tell?

Other than that, considering you'll be out of school fairly soon, if you think a hostile reaction is really likely then I'd probably say leave it. School will seem like a distant memory before you know it, and you'll have opportunities to seek out people who accept you for who you are.

[Boto]

Why do people feel the need to come 'out'? Who cares what other people's sexual orientation is or what (who!) they do in the bedroom as long as it's between consenting adults? What business is it of anyone else? It seems to be all about me, me, me.

[Cloverjo]

As has been said, you don't need to 'come out'. Just be who you are.
My son's friend announced to their group of close friends that he was gay. They just replied 'Yeah, we know', and everyone carried on as normal.

[douglas9401]

So many questions, Boto, and where do voice exercises come in? :)

[Kromovaracun]

//Why do people feel the need to come 'out'?//

The majority of people are straight, so people who aren't straight are typically assumed to be straight unless they otherwise say so.

This might seem trivial to someone who hasn't experienced it - but it can be a significant burden, because it means that everyone close to you doesn't understand that you fall in love with different people to them. And because there are still bigoted people around, it means that you're faced with the kind of anxiety the OP describes about whether your family/friends will still accept you if you tell them the truth - until you find out for sure.

I appreciate that to straight people this will all seem quite trivial but living through it is not, I can assure you.

[DarceyK123]

But as Cloverjo has said, most family or close friends already know.

Anyone else can stuff off.

[woofgang]

Its your life, do what you want to do when you feel ready.

[maggiebee]

As has been said, it's nobody's business but yours. Just carry on and be yourself.