Feeling Really Unsettled After Family Row .

[Jenarry]

Feeling really crappy today after an argument last night . It’s all so awful but was also kind of inevitable . Yesterday my parents were having a wedding anniversary party for friends and family . She also invited my brothers ex girlfriend (my niece’s mum). It’s the 1st time i’ve seen the ex in four years since she stopped me seeing my niece for no real reason. She also stopped my parents from seeing her too for a couple of years for no reason other than to stop me seeing her inadvertently. :/ I had been dreading last night and even toyed with the idea of not attending but I went with my husband ,son and mum in law for my parents sake .But of course it all kicked off at the end of the night. I’d managed to give her a wide berth all night then right at the end my mum called me over to talk to the ex. I reluctantly went over and it went badly and she started raising her voice . In enters my husband and he reacted very strongly to this and gave her a big piece of his mind .He angrily told her a few home truths about her keeping niece from me for no reason all this time .my brother and the ex’s boyfriend ended up getting involved and my niece was crying . All very awful. I wish my mum hadn’t called me over . It was the end of the party and they were 10mins from leaving anyway . :/ me and my husband haven’t been able to stop thinking about it today as we are not the arguing sort . We never have raised words at home... the ex was being true to type always v negative ,aggressive ,always in the right . Prob has a row like this every other day with someone or other and prob thought nothing of it today . I feel bad for my mum and dad ,although my dad seemed to be expecting it and just stayed out the way with my son. Luckily it was at the very end when practically everyone had gone.

[Mamyalynne]

I remember when all this was going on years ago and as you say, a bust up was almost bound to happen.

Things will die down again and hopefully she won't be invited in future.

[Cloverjo]

Arguments like this always feel worse for the non-aggressive person. Sit down with your husband, have a drink and talk about the evening and then get on with your lives as you have over the past few years.

[jakep]

Awful to have had to be in the same space as this person. Please try to move on with your husband. Is she worth your torment....probably not.

[Baldric]

Grow up Peeps,
Learn to live with it until you can sort it out, nothing is impossible,

[Jenarry]

I know. I was really surprised when my mum invited her after everything but she said she felt she had to . And the ex has promised my mum to keep the peace and might even let me speak to my niece ...how very big of her ! My mum kept saying she’d promised to be good but I knew it was going to end up like this . She’s one nasty piece of work . :/ :/ she’s took 4 yrs of spending time with my niece ,who we were so close to,away from us. And now I feel like we’ve completely messed up any chance of seeing her again as it got v heated. My husband didn’t hold back with telling her what he thought of her .

[Mamyalynne]

Your Mum did what Mum's do - try to please everyone - it will pass into memory.

[Mamyalynne]

I'll bet everything that your niece will return to you when she is old enough to choose Jenarry.x

[Jenarry]

Bless you Mamyalynne . I really hope so .

[roopower]

Not sure how old your niece is but I agree with Mamy, when the time comes she may well want to see you, so hang on in there. I hate rows so can understand how you are feeling

[Peter Pedant]

I dont think you do anything
the dust will settle down

[AuntLydia]

Everyone chews over what happened after an argument. Let it drop and if you have the misfortune to be in a similar situation walk away. Was your mother stirring? Was she taking sides during the arguement or trying to keep the peace? Maybe she knew this would happen and wanted to make sure your nieces mum knew she was on her side so she at least could still keep seeing your niece. I would avoid any further discussion on the matter especially with your mother. Draw a line and move on.

[hereIam]

I think the post at 23:00 is extremely sound. You sound like a lovely person, please don't be upset by this. Family arguments really do happen all the time, that's just life I'm afraid.