Where do I go from here

[dontknowwhat]

Having separated after 32years of marriage and stupidly gave up my friends and did not go out without my husband....now..I find myself wondering where I go from here..How do you get yourself out mixing with people without necessarily going to pubs.

[crete]

the only way now for you is up, give yourself time to adjust to your new situation. beware of rushing into a new relationship, you will be surprised to find many people like you in the big world, true friends will remain your friends, just think the only person who comes first now is you, when was the last time you were able to say that ? being fullfiled doesnt always have to be one of a couple good luck.

[warpig1]

How about doing some night classes, they don't have to be anything academic, just something you like, check out your local college of further education, the lists of courses are endless.

You could also join a voluntary group, or local dramatic society if that takes your fancy.

There are also plenty of holiday firms who cater for single persons (not club 18-30). I went with Friendship Travel this year and had a fantastic time with people I had never met. Something like this will give you more confidence in yourself and broaden your horizons, Go for it girl and good luck.

[warpig1]

There is not much happening in people and places today, you might want to post this question in body and soul as well. Everyone seems to mooch around there. And they will give you plent of suggestions (not all of them sensible however).

[Big Al1st]

Hi, I used to run some Country Music Clubs and along time ago introduced line dancing. It is not everyones cup of tea. However you can learn to line dance, get some excercise, meet different people, and you do not need a partner. You will find alot of other single people, male and female, at some of these clubs. Rgds Al

[robertson]

Pamper yourself at a health farm - they can be good for meeting people. One I went to, Grayshott Hall, had a table in the dining-room for everyone who was there alone - it was the most fun table in the room. Another great social time is a tennis holiday, but I guess you need to at least want to play

[dot.hawkes]

look up your old friends and see how many of them are just wishing they had someone in their life they could trust and talk to, everyone who is a grown up knows that a marriage means change and that people's priorities change, noone will be any less than delighted to be in touch with you again, don't think it is taking a step back either, one of those old misplaced friends may bring you a great future.

[mlbt]

If youre going to join a club or group, cast your mind back to a forgotten hobby.
The elation of a sense of nostalgia and the confidence that youre not on foriegn soil will make you radiate.
People notice things like that, and youll be surprised how easily you will adapt to a new dynamic.
good luck