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My cousins husband died in June, they had been married over 60 years, and have children , grandchildren. They lived a long way from me and I did not go to the funeral , but sent a card flowers etc and phoned her.
I thought that I should write to he before Xmas, but I am not sure what to put, can anybody please give me a few words or phrases ,that I could build on please.
I thought that I should write to he before Xmas, but I am not sure what to put, can anybody please give me a few words or phrases ,that I could build on please.
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I'd do the original 'poo sandwich' letter where you start off nice and bright, get the yukky stuff out of the way in the middle, and end nice and bright. Something like:- Dear Hername, I hope you are well, we are all (tell her about your goings on). I'm so sorry that this year has been so hard for you. I really regret not being able to come to his name's funeral and...
14:19 Fri 23rd Nov 2018
Sqad - // Eleena.......death is commonplace to me, have seen famine , tragedies all my life and they have no effect on me particularly when they relate to someone that i had never known or even met.
I find it difficult to grieve even about someone close to me, so you see the question of writing to someone who has just died is difficult......and i don't and particularly on the Internet....so impersonal. //
You write about your absence of empathy as though it is something to be proud of - it's not.
// Yes Kvali's post 14.19 was superb, but she is after all an actress, so you see it was totally without feeling or emotion.....in other words it was meaningless.....it couldn't have been any other way. //
But at least you're consistant - only an empathy-free individual would presume to know that a stranger is making something up on the basis of her profession.,
I find it difficult to grieve even about someone close to me, so you see the question of writing to someone who has just died is difficult......and i don't and particularly on the Internet....so impersonal. //
You write about your absence of empathy as though it is something to be proud of - it's not.
// Yes Kvali's post 14.19 was superb, but she is after all an actress, so you see it was totally without feeling or emotion.....in other words it was meaningless.....it couldn't have been any other way. //
But at least you're consistant - only an empathy-free individual would presume to know that a stranger is making something up on the basis of her profession.,
Thank you for the BA Catswiskas :)
It was somewhat heartfelt actually Squad, in the sense that as an actor you tap into method, that is I thought how I'd feel if my partner had died and how I would want a letter to arrive from someone, and that's pretty much it, but I do think BM is right avoid the funeral and go with her suggestions on that I think, so I'm not entirely heartless Sqadi. x
It was somewhat heartfelt actually Squad, in the sense that as an actor you tap into method, that is I thought how I'd feel if my partner had died and how I would want a letter to arrive from someone, and that's pretty much it, but I do think BM is right avoid the funeral and go with her suggestions on that I think, so I'm not entirely heartless Sqadi. x
A-H
"You write about your absence of empathy as though it is something to be proud of - it's not. "
You have missed the boat there Andy as that is your interpretation of my post....i ma NOT proud of it or indeed otherwise.....it is just a fact.
Kvali"
"It was somewhat heartfelt actually Squad, in the sense that as an actor you tap into method"
of course.
"You write about your absence of empathy as though it is something to be proud of - it's not. "
You have missed the boat there Andy as that is your interpretation of my post....i ma NOT proud of it or indeed otherwise.....it is just a fact.
Kvali"
"It was somewhat heartfelt actually Squad, in the sense that as an actor you tap into method"
of course.
Sqad - // A-H
"You write about your absence of empathy as though it is something to be proud of - it's not. "
You have missed the boat there Andy as that is your interpretation of my post....i ma NOT proud of it or indeed otherwise.....it is just a fact. //
In that case, you appear to have posted merely to advise castwhiscas that you have absolutely nothing whatsoever useful to contribute to her thread - and for that, you might as well have saved your time, and simply not posted at all.
"You write about your absence of empathy as though it is something to be proud of - it's not. "
You have missed the boat there Andy as that is your interpretation of my post....i ma NOT proud of it or indeed otherwise.....it is just a fact. //
In that case, you appear to have posted merely to advise castwhiscas that you have absolutely nothing whatsoever useful to contribute to her thread - and for that, you might as well have saved your time, and simply not posted at all.
A-H
"In that case, you appear to have posted merely to advise castwhiscas that you have absolutely nothing whatsoever useful to contribute to her thread - and for that, you might as well have saved your time, and simply not posted at all."
LOl..LOL...I think that you are probably correct as i am at the stage on AB where my replies are labelled "unhelpful" ( particularly by you repeatedly)or my answers are removed.
I often wonder and analyse whether i play any part in AB or indeed if alternative opinions are welcomed.
"In that case, you appear to have posted merely to advise castwhiscas that you have absolutely nothing whatsoever useful to contribute to her thread - and for that, you might as well have saved your time, and simply not posted at all."
LOl..LOL...I think that you are probably correct as i am at the stage on AB where my replies are labelled "unhelpful" ( particularly by you repeatedly)or my answers are removed.
I often wonder and analyse whether i play any part in AB or indeed if alternative opinions are welcomed.
