opinions please!

[x sparkle x]

hey people! what would you think about this? i found out that my boyfriend has been comforting a girl at work who caught her boyfriend with her mate. i had no problem with this (he runs the team she's in and is supposed to be there for the staff) until i found out she'd been texting him all yesterday until the early hours of this morning. im worried that she may get the wrong idea as i know what can happen when you're feeling vulnerable and messed up it can make you fall for someone who pays you attention and comforts you. i personally think she should be talking to another female or a single male. what do you think?

[naz_nomad]

I think you're right ... it's not on, is it.

She's vulnerable ... he's listening ...watch out !!

[Dizzieblonde]

Could be harmless, but keep an eye on it. See how he reacts when you say you think she's getting a bit too carried away and dependent on him.

[dot.hawkes]

she is probably already doing that too, trying to gain as much support and sympathy as possible, watch yourself as you may end up the bad guy if you make too big a deal out of it all, it will pass.

[x sparkle x]

im glad you agree i was starting to think i was being really paranoid! i have spoken to him and said how i feel but i dont want to keep on at him about it. he says he's aware of what could happen as he has been in this situation many a time and i hope he listens to me and backs off.

[jno]

I suppose it's unsettling to find your man getting messages from a female... but you know what they're about; he's been entirely open with you; and he's doing it as part of his job. So why aren't you trusting him?

[x sparkle x]

i do trust him i just worry that this girl's going to get the wrong idea and i know this can happen in these situtations.

[madham]

If you trust him it shouldn't really be an issue, have a word with him tell him that you understand she needs supporting in her current situation but it's making you feel uncomfortable her texting him all day.

If he values your worth, he will do it less or confine it to office hours.

[madham]

Sorry forgot to say, good luck honey.

[xforxray]

unfortunately I was in the same position as you a few years ago and in my situation the young lady in question caused me and fella to split up. I'm all for helping people out and being a shoulder to cry on as we all need one at times but intruding into your time together, especially when she's only a work collegue, is a bit much. He may also feel a bit funny about her being so dependant on him and atleast he's not keeping anything from you by telling you whats going on