A Moral Dilemma

[gordiescotland1]

Hi there 3 months ago I left the church very hurt after my friend had died the ministers wife was very cold with me, we were all there at the time of death and the minister and his wife were his next of kin because at that time he told us he had no living relatives. The minister went away on holiday and asked not to be contacted although there was a funeral to organise. I tried to get his mobile phone so I could ring the contact details on the phone and tell them if his death I did not want to put an advert in the paper it was £100. Anyway I contacted the undertaker to find out where his phone was and then had to speak to the council as they were paying for the funeral it was then that we discovered he had 1 sister and 3 brothers. Anyway the atmosphere between me and his wife was awful so I had to guess what it was that they were offended that I contacted people while they were away he suggested I wrote to her and apologise which I did though not unsure what I did she told me he would speak to me. I decided to leave the church and I wanted the truth about this situation he said that I needed a platform because I had low self esteem and I made my friends death all about me. That to me was so wrong and hurtful. He left 3 folding chairs in my house and 1 month ago I asked a mutual friend to ask him if he wanted them back he said he would but never got back to me so on Monday I threw them out and they were collected. Low and behold I got a text saying he wants to come round and collect them and go out for a coffee do I a) ignore the text b) tell him the truth c) tell him to sod off

[Mamyalynne]

Reply and explain the chairs have gone, if he's still up for a coffee then you must decide whether you think there's anything to be salvaged by meeting up.

[kvalidir]

B. Be honest, tell him you thought under the circumstances he was ignoring you and gave him a reasonable amount of time to collect his chairs and when he didn't you threw them away/ gave them away. Tell him you are happy to meet for a coffee if he wishes and tell him straight that you are bewildered and hurt by his unfounded accusations and that they are catagorically wrong. Keep polite, keep factual and then if he doesn't apologise for his behaviour decide what you want to do. sounds a horrible situation :( x

[nailit]

//c) tell him to sod off//

Tho I might use a stronger word than that....