Ex Wife A Terrible Parent

[pumpjack]

ex wife from thailand, my daughter is 10 now, since 4 yrs now my young sister and her partner have been bringing her up, they give her everything , holidays, good schooling etc etc , i pay a standing order per 4 weekly to my kid sister for taking care of my kid which i appreciate greatly,
sister is in a long term relationship with a girl, they have been together 16 years and are secure and both have very good jobs in government depts etc.
anyway, ive allways had problems with my daughters mum, we split around 6 yrs ago, she has a vile temper, she has no parental qualities whatsoever, she never took my kid anywhere whilst it was only me taking her to sunday schools, clubs , cinema, beach etc etc
social services where involved as i could not accept working away and my child being neglected, her mum let her out on street at 9pm at night , my kid was only around 4 year old for god sake.
my wife was allways just leaving her with neigbours and went off somewhere, the child never seen her mum at all. mum was allways working at thai restaurant long hours, i knew the neighbours didnt want to say no as they felt sorry for my kid. only this week i called my kid, asked her when she last seen mum or heard from mum, she said around 3 weeks ago, what kind of a *** would do that to her own beautifull little girl.
so, i have a question, i am extremely worried what way this will affect my kid when she is older ? will she start having relationships younger, try to get pregnat , run away from home, get into drugs, im worried to hell about this even though my sis is giving her a great life.
BTW my sister and her partner allways wanted my daughter even since she was a baby as they knew then that mum couldnt take good care plus they obviously were desperate to mother a child as they are lesbian couple so they are very happy to be bringing her up as their own anyway.
would like to hear from anyone in similar situation

[pumpjack]

" He sounds like a crap father. "

ill not say what you sound like as i would be banned again....what gives you the bloody right to say im a crap father.

[fiction-factory]

I wouldn't endorse ummmm's comment but if you have decided to let someone else bring up your child so that you can continue your career overseas then you have to trust them to bring her up. If you trust them to bring her up in the right way and she seems happy then I don't think there is a strong likelihood of her getting into drugs, getting pregnant early etc, although of course this can happen however well children are brought up if they get in with the wrong crowd or have a strong mind of their own to do these things. If you are concerned that there is more chance of this happening under the present arrangements then would you consider giving up your job overseas and devoting much more of your time to bringin your daughter up yourself?

[wolf63]

Has your ex-wife agreed that your sister is taking care of your daughter?

If not your daughter 'may' resent your heavy handed approach.

It sounds complicated, but it is possible that your ex needed support in bringing up your (and hers) daughter.

Taking your daughter out for trips is a good thing, but your wife ex was living with the day-to-day issues of bringing up a child this is harder and very different and can wear a person down.