Update

[Rockrose]

Back from seeing dad and it’s worse than I first thot.
Firstly let me make it clear it’s not dementia.
He now has palliative carers twice a day for several hours each visit, he has also been given end of life meds?
If that wasn’t bad enough he has now been told that it’s more likely to be 6 months not the initial 9 as thought.
I don’t know how I got through the weekend and somehow made it back to Belfast before breaking down in hubbys car!

[tamborine]

So sorry for you especially as youre not with your dad.

[bednobs]

is he actually having "end of life" meds?
if so, it might be a considerably shorter time than you are anticipating. if they are there in the house in anticipation it makes more sense, because when you need to start them, it's invariably 3 am or Friday evening of a BH weekend, so having them there in anticipation is a good thing, and shows his medical team is good (and thoughtful)

[Rockrose]

Bednobs they are in the house for sure I’m not a 100% sure if he’s in them.
His dr is amazing Stepmum has to call the dr out yesterday afternoon as dad has now contracted a chest infection

[anneasquith]

Sorry to hear about the chest infection.

[Rockrose]

Thank you all funnily enough it’s quite comforting talking too strangers

[Tilly2]

RR, watching and waiting for a beloved parent to die is a heart wrenching experience. In my experience, I just prayed that it would happen sooner rather than later, for their sake. Wanting them to stay with you is understandable but there is a time when it's better for them to go.

[rowanwitch]

My thoughts are with you and your family.
We get through because the alternative is far worse, you have shown in other areas you are strong although that strength may not seem enough right now, but it will be, and every little thing you do to make things better even from a distance helps. Breaking down isn't what it sounds like its not weakness its just releasing the immediate pressure and pain til you can clear your head for one or two more steps.

[Maydup]

Thinking of you Rockrose, and remembering the additional pain that came with living several hours away from a dearly beloved Dad.

[Rockrose]

Apparenlty the chest infection is taking its toll on dad and he is struggling a lot!
They are trying all sorts to help him breath a bit easier, off to see him again this weekend.
Have joined various car hire rewards as will be travelling a lot over the next few months!

[Butterbun]

Sorry to hear this RR, stay strong. My thoughts are with you and family.x