Whats The Point Of Marriage?

nailit | 18:37 Wed 10th Jul 2019 | ChatterBank

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Is there really a point to it other than religious?
Or is it a legal issue?

Just never understood the idea of marriage.
Don't mean to be divisive or anything, just don't understand the idea of wanting to be 'tied' to anyone (in either the legal or religious sense).
Surely if you love someone, then everything else is superfluous. Binding, legal or religious contracts mean nothing?

I was with my last partner for 8 yrs. I thank God that I wasn't married to her after we broke up...otherwise I would have been stuffed.
No bitterness at all now, but if we had been married then it might of been a different story. Just wondering about how others here view marriage.

Id also like to get a 50/50 breakdown of how males/females view things.
Thanks ;-)

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pixie374

Andres, I really don't think marriage in itself does provide stability. The relationship either does that or it doesn't. I can think of married people who row furiously constantly, or are together for years, purely out of apathy or fear of being alone. That is not healthy and a marriage certificate won't change it.

nailit

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//Some traditions are worth keeping. Marriage is one of them.//
Not in my book!

Mamyalynne

It's personal to each couple, worked for us.

pixie374

"Tradition" is usually the excuse for anything outdated and irrelevant. The question is... if it was invented now, how popular would it be?

Old_Geezer

All that's needed is a declaration on who gets what. Such as a will. Or a box filled in on a tax form. No ceremony required.

nailit

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//Some traditions are worth keeping//
And some are worth modiyfying.

albaqwerty

Mr Alba and I married each other (before PP says anything lol) purely cos we wanted too.
Loving each other helped/s.

At nearly 32 years hitched, we seem to have been going through the marriage vows as some sort of check-list :-)

andres

Pixie ^^^--Agreed, but every situation is different and I was merely giving an overall viewpoint.

pixie374

Fair enough, Andres x

haras2

Civil partnerships for heterosexual couples would appeal to a lot of people

nailit

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I still fail to see the point of marriage!
Other than a (dubious) point of law, I fail to see why
2 people that love each other would need/want to make it official or public.
But that's just me ;-)

pixie374

And me :-). But I don't like being the centre of attention anyway. The stress would be pointless. Even as a child, I knew I wanted children, dogs and horses, but never imagined a husband...

Mamyalynne

This is quite an interesting development - a chance to convert.

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2019/jul/10/heterosexual-couples-may-be-allowed-to-convert-marriages-to-civil-unions

Eleena

Yes I think marriage in 2019 is a old fashioned concept. It seems couples in 2019 are prioritising and instead putting a roof over their heads above splashing out on getting married. Is there a point to marriage? ... I’m not sure these days.

New Judge

//NJ, I suspect that the rules need to be looked at again about inheritance then, rather than expecting people to get married in order to receive money.//

People are not expected to get married to get money. They can stay single. But marriage is a legal concept that bestows certain rights and privileges on those who take part. If you don’t want those rights and privileges, don’t take part. It’s rather like wanting to use the facilities of a club if you’re not a member and complaining that you face discrimination if you are shut out. Yes, a will is the ideal way to deal with inheritance but huge numbers of people, especially younger ones, die intestate. The rules of intestacy are designed to cope with those circumstances and they cannot readily be adapted to cope with unmarried partners. DNA testing, as suggested, is only a solution if there are children of the partnership. Life is not the Jeremy Kyle show.

By all means couples should remain unwed if that is their choice. But they should understand that it may present them with certain difficulties and they cannot expect those difficulties to be overcome by government when there is a readily available solution.