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The C Word Dilemma !
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OK, we have over the last 10 years invited MIL to join us for Christmas she always says she will think about it but never gives us an answer - when we finally ask her if she is coming so we can book flights, its always 'no I have made alternative plans'
Well this year I have invited my stepmum and stepsibilings and their partners for Christmas and they are all driving over on mass.
So he and I were talking last night over his mother and the fact that she dropped into the conversation that she feels ignored at Christmas. Now given how many times we have invited her over and how I feel about her and how she behaved when my father died - I obviously don't want her here.
But he thinks we should put the invite out there.
My worry is that if we invite her this is the year she would say yes - i can't trust her to behave and not upset my Stepmum.
Opinions please.
Well this year I have invited my stepmum and stepsibilings and their partners for Christmas and they are all driving over on mass.
So he and I were talking last night over his mother and the fact that she dropped into the conversation that she feels ignored at Christmas. Now given how many times we have invited her over and how I feel about her and how she behaved when my father died - I obviously don't want her here.
But he thinks we should put the invite out there.
My worry is that if we invite her this is the year she would say yes - i can't trust her to behave and not upset my Stepmum.
Opinions please.
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In that case Rockrose, if your OH is ok about it, don't invite her. She will have so much ammunition about being left all alone while everyone enjoys themselves it will keep her wallowing into the New Year. She'll be over the moon. We have a family get together just before Xmas and my mother basically did the same thing. The last straw was her openly calling my daughter a big fat ----------, and how she'd be so slim and pretty as a child....She's never been invited since.
Dear Rockrose, after the year you have had I really believe you deserve the Christmas you want. Your hubby seems to have been so supportive throughout I trust he will understand your need for a MILless festive season. With those you have invited you will be able to enjoy the Christmas your dad would have loved. Go for it xx
I may be being a bit brutal, which I put down to the fact my parents divorced when I was very young, so me and my siblings became very independent very quickly, but if I don't want somebody around my dinner table they don't get invited, and I couldn't give a tinker's cuss whether this upsets them or not - I don't even give it a second's thought.
If I knew somebody was going to be a bit of a terrorist, there's absolutely no way they'd get an invite.....especially at Xmas. Nobody wants to be walking on eggshells all day.
If I knew somebody was going to be a bit of a terrorist, there's absolutely no way they'd get an invite.....especially at Xmas. Nobody wants to be walking on eggshells all day.
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