Well, my daughter has just become a single mum (through no fault of her own - husband decided that 1) prozzies and 2) 15 yrs. younger version of my daughter was more fun) and life is bl***y difficult so it is unsurprising that the children do not get the same attention. I am doing my utmost to ensure tables and spelling basics are being seen to (I'm not very popular with the kids!). In a way Boris has it right, my grandson has become aggressively defensive and hard to deal with (I'll win in the end) but there simply is not enough time for one person to see to all aspects of child-raising. I think it is a case that what he said was probably right for some - but very wrong for others. So it can be argued both ways.