weird problem

[missyR]

ok, so about three weeks ago now i went on holiday with all my girl mates and ONE lad came but previously we all said how we thought he was a bit, well, gay?
He is really really big like tall but is also grossly overweight the way he holds his posture is obvious and the way he tries to cover it up by dressing like a chav.
But anyway on this holiday myself and my two mates, both are girls, were in a room together its quite compact. But me n sam were in our hotpant knickers and bras lying on the bed cos we had just woken up. Someone knocked on the door and my friend went to open it while me and my other friend were still in bed with no blanket anyway he came in and we had to scramble to the bathroom and we stayed in there till he left because we didn't want to go out to get some clothes as he was literally lying across the beds (which were all together) so when he left to go to the room next door we were all discussing it and decided that he couldn't come in again and that he definetly couldn't sleep as that was what he wanted to do. So once out and about we sat down for dinner and started to tell him that we didn't want him in our room. He's notorious for throwing tantrums (thats where the gay thing comes from) so he was like well why didn't you say something and we were in awe because we did say something when we were locked in the bathroom twice in fact we told him to leave!! So he was being very ignorant so we chose to walk away but there was a very very big argument that lead to quite childish and very bad name calling that night and i went very mad. But we left him. Now hes texting me saying do i still like him because he thinks he has no friendS. the problem is hes so attention seeking and tries to get everybody to hate you. When we tell him something he says he wants advice then name calls you and says your being nasty!!!please help because im really sick of him and have got to get through another year with him soon.
R xxx

[Eric Git]

Oh dear missy, it sounds more like he wants to be part of thegang and can't understand why he's not allowed in. At 14 whether he's gay or not, he's going through a lot of emotional changes, as are you, and whether you like it or not, when you get to 24 you'll look back on this and say 'Did I really react like that?' If he seems to be attention seeking them ask why? Has he got something to say and no one is listening? How would you treat one of your girl friends if they started acting this way? Do the same, treat him the same as boy or girl gay or not, a friend is a friend and there'll always be arguemtns and tantrums but we all get over it. Good luck with your future year with him ad your education, and for what it's worth, I wouldn't want to be 14 again.

[missyR]

i know but the thing is if i asked him why hes like that he would be like well you wouldn't like it if i called you attention seeking and i would be like i know but im not and im asking you why YOU are like that then he would go off and tell everybody that i was griefin him behind is back even though i am quite up front about my feelings i told him in y8 i thought he was childish and looking for attention and so have other people but he doesn't understand.
Its a bit of a lost cause isn't it?

[violetblue]

Are you Russian, by any chance?

[missyR]

no i'm a geordie?
why are you doing a survey
r xx

[redcrx]

just ignore him. If this occured on a school trip then the teachers should have been notified that he was trying to sleep in your room.
You sound like youre trying to turn it all into too much of a drama. Just ignore him, you obviously dont want his friendship so why cant you just leave him to his own devices?

[missyR]

so like not talk to him or associate myself with him is that what you mean?

[redcrx]

yes, you dont have to be friends with someone you dont want to be friends with. just dont associate with him and dont get into arguments or insult him. You can be at the same school and not have to have anything to do with each other.

[missyR]

ok rock on next term!!
r xx