Hiv Ag/ab Test At 12 Weeks Post Exposure

[Cheetah1397]

I’m a male and had an encounter with another male 14 weeks ago. It was mouth kissing, neck licking and mutual hand job with no masturbation.

1-Was this a high risk to acquire HIV and does it warrant testing?
2- I tested at a very respectable lab using ag/ab (combo) test at 8 weeks 10.5 weeks and 12 weeks and they were all Negative. Do I need further testing?
3- I asked the other guy to test at the same lab using the same type if test at 11 weeks and 14 weeks and they were both Negative. Was this a proof and reassurance not to worry about it any more?

Thanks in advance

[TheDevil]

The standard wait time to test is 3 months, I would test once more at 14 weeks as that will be the start of month 4 so anything would have surfaced by then.

From reading OP the chances you have HIV are extremely minor.

[Cheetah1397]

But they say everywhere including CDC for the 4th generation test, 6 weeks would be enough!! I’m confused

[woofgang]

up to date info here https://www.avert.org/hiv-testing/when-get-tested-hiv

[woofgang]

I wouldn't rely on what thedevil, says they are not expert. Avert is a well known and trusted organisation.

[Cheetah1397]

Thank you so much

[Cheetah1397]

Plus the other guy tested negative at 14 weeks (4th Gen) after we met. Wouldn’t a great proof that I wasn’t exposed to HIV?

[Peter Pedant]

from experience - I was HIV tested when my blood count went down to zero - 0.02 to be exact, and when it (HIV test) was negative they said
O lets do another one ! - - still neg

My brother said of No2 - the prospect of getting it wrong is SO catastrophic, they .... dont get it wrong
technically speaking - the HIV test is very highly quality controlled

or plainly

negative is negative

you dont have it

[me? (*) oh blood cancer but my doctors were in denial]
(*) I should have had a HIGHER count( .4 to .8) as CD8 cells are unaffected but no one made tht intellectual jump

[Peter Pedant]

// I should have had a HIGHER count( .4 to .8) as CD8 cells are unaffected but no one made tht intellectual jump//
which
thinking about it - is "confirmation bias" - you (one, I, the doctor) receive further information ( HIV neg and wonky blood count) and reject it because it doesnt confirm the first impressions

in your case - you are rejecting all the information that shows you are HIV neg - and then concluding; "and so I still could be, couldnt I?"

[fiction-factory]

HIV is not spread via saliva- kissing can allow spread of HIV only if both partners have bleeding gums which get into the bloodstream of the other. Same with neck licking. I'm not sure why you specify "no masturbation"- in fact I thought a mutual hand job would count as (mutual) masturbation but it's not my specialist subject- but I can't see any risk from hand jobs unless large amounts of semen got onto broken skin and into the bloodstream, but even then risk is low.

[Peter Pedant]

too much detail and analysis - FF

[Cheetah1397]

I meant to say hand job with no ejaculation

[fiction-factory]

It seems the chances were very low indeed then and the results are as expected and so you can almost certainly rule out any HIV

[Buenchico]

HIV can't be transmitted via saliva. The only risks in kissing someone who's HIV+ are if both of you have bleeding lips or gums.

From your description of your sexual activity with the other guy, I can't see why you even bothered with HIV testing at all as (unless you both had open sores on your lips or gums) the risk of you acquiring HIV through such activity was COMPLETELY ZERO.

[Cheetah1397]

Thank you so much. My other point is the other guy was tested negative at the 14th week mark. Was that a proof that i was not exposed to HIV in the first place

[fiction-factory]

Even if he hadn't been tested negative, as Buenchico and others have said, you weren't at risk anyway based on your activities

[Cheetah1397]

I really appreciate you quick and reassuring reply.

This was indeed overwhelming. My last question:

Shall i put this whole thing behind me and resume sex with my wife

[Nical]

Yes.

[douglas9401]

You may want to use protection until your wife is tested too, just in case she's known about your antics and decided to get some for herself.

Sit her down for a frank discussion, you know it makes sense.

[Cheetah1397]

You guys confused me!!!

What you (doug) said doesn’t make sense.
If my partner and I tested negative way after the encounter why i should get my wife tested!