slight problem

[kitten_uk2]

im due to get married in 10 weeks time, ive done all the planning and got all my bits and bobs,, hubby2be has only arranged his stag do(amsterdam for weekend),,,
we get on great usually, and no one has ever been involved in our relationship, ive always wanted him, and hes always wanted me.(been together 4yrs)
Over the weekend i went to see him dj with a friend, and there was a girl sat with him in the dj box and her fone was nxt to his pint. when we got home i found texs on his fone from her, saying how much she Really likes him. he told me she had come onto him few weeks back and has been sitting nxt to him for a while, shes only 19(he's nearly 30 and im 26) he says he loves me, but i cant help but feel upset about it, he doesnt seem interested in the wedding and hes got a younger woman wanting him.
im no green eyed monster, i just cant belive this is happening so close to the wedding, ive done nothing but cry.

[electricblue]

Aaahhh,kitten maybe with the wedding getting closer and maybe with nerves starting to creep in,you're gonna see and think things that you normally wouldnt,its a stressful time and i'll bet you're all over the place,if you're really worried,sit down with him and talk,go for a meal or a drink,just the 2 of you,relax hun,take time out and have a good chat to him,i'm sure you have nothing to worry about!!

[bednobs]

in my experience men tend to let weddings happen to them, rather that be particularly actively involved, so that is not unusual . He also cant help it that people other than you find him attractive. If youd have found messages he'd sent to her i would be worried, but he has no control over what she sends him. As the above person said, talk to him, let him know how much you dont want him to do it

[vehelpfulguy]

But surely bednobs, if this girl is sending him text messages he must have given her his phone number. Why ?

Unfortunately I am sure there are certain jobs where girls do throw themselves at guys, such as DJ, holiday reps and so on.

If that is his job you will have to learn to accept it, although I am surprised it has taken 4 years to come out.

[Englandfan]

Babe, if he's giving her his phone number and she's out and about where he's dj'in then the writtings on the wall....... sorry but if you want to marry him its about alot of things and one of them is trust.

The world is a small place, don't marry him just cos its something to do, something for you both to talk about for a while......

[ChuffingHell]

i think england fan raises a valid point. how did she come to have his number?

ve helpful also raises a good point that it kinda comes with his role BUT he should have nipped this in the bud by making it clear to this girl that he's not interested, advising him that he's about to get married and he doesn't want the wrong kind of signals going to his lovely wife to be!

So I'd ask him if he's done that. If he hasn't, make sure he does!