He's A Perv

[123amelia]

Sorry for my horrible spelling and capitilization i'm angry and need advice. Ok, so I have a friend named Kieran, and he's friends with someone named zach. We all hung out, along with my friend Lily. Lily and I had never met zach before, Within minutes zach was flirting agressively with her (keep in mind we're literally 14 like what the heck), and right after we left he was snapping her asking her to like hook up with him and saying he would do anything to be with her, and when she told him no he started doing it to me and I was like what the heck. Fast forward like two days, we met this girl named olivia. She's so sweet, so caring, nice, supportive, the whole deal. I love her. Zach had seen her around before, and was always talking about how hot she was, which was kind of annoying becuase it's like she's a person dude. so he has her sit inbetween him and his friend on the golf cart we were driving around, and so every time he would agressively swerve the wheel, she would like fall into him because she's small and light. Of course, right when we all went home, it was the same thing all over again. "your so beautiful", "I wish i could call you mine", "lets hook up in the woods tommorrow", "oh you have your friend staing with you? Is she cute?". Like really. And I was on the phone with olivia and she was like how do I respond to this like he knows where I live now since he dropped me off and even thogh he's the same age as us he's like such a perv and he does this to literally every girl. And she doens't like him, she likes someone else that we were hanging out with, and they would be so cute together but stupid zach and his horny self are always in the way and I just feel bad for every girl that meets him becuase no matter what he objectifies them and tries to get things out of them that they aren't comfortable doing. Any advice for me, olivia, and any other girl he has in the past or in the future harrassed?

[Smowball]

Just be honest with him. Say he is far OTT, too much in your face and it’s making you all feel uncomfortable.

[waterboatman]

Sounds to me like he needs telling he's not welcome until he changes his attitude.

[Peter Pedant]

yes he s a perv - what do you want us to do about it that you cant or shouldnt do yourself ?

[Peter Pedant]

a 14 y o has just used the word "objectifed"
does that tell us he's 14 or 40 ?

[Old_Geezer]

Someone finding someone else "hot" doesn't stop that person being like a persude dude. And it's hardly perverted to be interested in others. You need to get a better perspective.

OK, so he's got raging hormones and he is giving in to them without regard to social skills and acceptable behaviour. He needs someone to point out that he's being disrespectful and annoying. Maybe ask your friend Kieran if he'd have 'a word in his ear'. If Kiean isn't interested in broaching the subject with Zach, or fails to get through to him, then you and your girl friends should be capable of calmly and politely telling him that his behaviour isn't on, and he should tone it down and get to know individuals first; not try overly hard apparently fishing for anyone who will take the bait.

[Ken4155]

Desperately casting his net far and wide but using the wrong bait. Follow OG's advice, is my advice.

[beso]

Have you considered expanding this story into a television script?

[calmck]

And using yesterday’s post.!! Be careful he is not getting the wrong message from you girls. Be polite and say that you would all like to get to know him as a general friend to you all. Tell him nicely that you find his behaviour to be slightly aggressive and that you don’t like it