Was He Just Trying To Be Nice Or Is There Some Sort Of Crush?

[honeybun35]

There is a young man who is a leader at an organization that I belong to. He never really converse with me. Now that he is a leader I've notice he has been very nice. He usually ask me how are my children who is the same age range as him.One time he needed to ask me something that he forgot to ask inside so he ran
outside to ask me. After he asked that one question he asked how things were and with the 2 children that
are his age doing. It was almost kind of awkward but I don't know why.

There was another time in a class he teaches he had a mic in his and going around to see who had questions.
I didn't raise my hand and some how he came over to me after because he thought i had a question.I think on the way over he was confused be thought it was me. I have caught him staring but maybe he was just looking my way.He is much younger I have kids his age he is 33.

[Old_Geezer]

Does it matter ? You cougar you ;-)

[ummmm]

Maybe he is interested in one of your children, who appear to be adults.

[bookbinder]

Possibilities:
1. He might just be doing what a leader should do, interacting with all the members.
2. If he is 33 years old, the same age as your children, you might be seen as a kind of mother figure to him, and so he might see you as deserving of a bit more consideration than younger members.
3. You'll need a few more 'signals' from him before you can say that he has a crush on you. Give it some time.

[allenlondon]

How old are you honeybun?

If in your 50s, then maybe you've struck lucky.

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[ummmm]

Sounds like an American teenager!

Some of my sons friends hug me...does that mean they have a crush.......er...NO.

[honeybun35]

he's not hugging he is staring and doing things he didn't normally do before.I didn't know teenagers stare at their friends mom.

[AuntPollyGrey]

I think you are the one with the crush honeybun. Leave the poor lad alone, he is probably asking about your 'kids' because he fancies one of them!

[ummmm]

Isn't it the same difference? You're old enough to be his mum.

I said hugging because that's what my sons friends do to me. Nothing in it though.

Do you want him to have a crush on you?

[Sqad]

I don't believe some of these answers.......he is looking for an affair.
If you are up for it.....then go for it.

[honeybun35]

for the above saying I am the one with the crush and he probably fancies one of the children I never said the sex. I am not the one staring and running out to have a conversation. Helpful answers would be great.

[AuntPollyGrey]

honeybun this may come as a huge shock but males can be attracted to other males, so the sex of your two 'children' is irrelevant. Not quite sure what a 'helpful' answer is regarding your question -you will get varied opinions based on the info you have given, which basically is young(ish) male the same age as my children keeps asking me about my children and how they are getting on, and seems awkward around me. Surely as a mature woman you can read the signals?

[honeybun35]

Ok I get you but the guy only dates woman. Yes the signals do seem as a crush but wanted other opinion just in case.

[allenlondon]

“Helpful answers would be great.”

Well, answering mine about your age would be a start.

Then, a self-assessment of your attractiveness would help.

(Me? Old, grey, fat, crippled. Once mistaken for Brian Blessed in younger, drunker days! So 30 years ago, a head-turner; now, scarcely a second glance.)


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[honeybun35]

to the above 50 and look like i'm in my late 30's . Don't look my age at all.
Pretty much in shape even with the pandemic.

[Chinajan]

Well done honeybun. And which famous person do you resemble? Can you aspire to the heights of allenlondon's Brian Blessed? Tough act to follow admittedly.

[AuntPollyGrey]

LOl! chinajan back of the net lol!

[allenlondon]

No aspirations, just demonstrating honesty. Trust others will follow suit.