Help.. teenage boys

mollymandy | 12:02 Sun 27th Aug 2006 | Parenting

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i have just found out my stepson is looking at porn on our computor , i thought we had parental blocks on it , but somehow he musted have by passed them . i know its only nature to be curious but i am fuming that he has done this on the family computor . What should i do next ?

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suzi-q

We have had similar problems with my 16 yr old son. Despite several warnings, talks about the type of stuff he was looking at and the possible consequences for us - the computer being registered in our name - he hasnt stopped so we've had to take the computer away from him altogether. Seems harsh but cant think of anything else. Also he was spending literally hours on msn and it was curbing his real social life. Now he is out more and enjoying proper friendships instead of online ones.

WendyS

Can you move the computer into your bedroom and keep the door locked?
I think part of this is natural curiosity but if you can't make it secure with any confidence then the best thing to do is remove access from him. However, does he use this computer for doing school homework? if so, then unless you can get an expert to set it up so that he can't get into porn sites, you may have a problem.

Phantaxus

Try this

http://www.k9webprotection.com/

Its free for home use and based on the same filter that our local LEA uses to secure the computers in schools.

Phantaxus

Just a couple of small security holes ive found with that package

1. Admin Password - choose a good one that cant be guessed

2. Email - get the license email sent to a web based email (Hotmail, Yahoo Etc.) rather than Outlook and ensure your kids cant gain access to the emal account.

The reason for this is there is a option in the software for them to send you a temporary admin password in case you have forgotten the one you set.

If you use an Outlook based or insecure web based email then your kids can make a password request check your email and turn off the filtering!

chazza

Password protect the computer/internet connection and delete all the images etc on the hard drive

Matheous

Wots to stop him buying mags?? -They're not passworded!

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