An awful situation to be in, BM. And horrible though this may sound, it more makes me wish we could allow humans a better quality of dying. I really hope that doesn't offend you... but I wish she could make her genuine choice, without being made to suffer for it.
Does anyone know.... if there is a maximum allowed? I spoke to my parents, in their 70s. And frankly, they are expecting us all to go for lunch. No partners, just immediate family... that is still 12 people and 4 households. But it is also my granddaughter's 5th birthday on Christmas day.... nobody is prepared to leave her and her mum out.