relationships

[Karie]

I'm 18 years old and I fell in love with a 50 year old. We really love each other but society won't have it. How do I tell him that I'm not ready to have sex when he is?

[Sebass]

The same way you would tell an 19, 20, 21 year old man no. The age difference shouldn't matter, what matters is when you are ready, regardless of his age. You are old enough and legal enough to sleep with who you chose and if you don't want to then it's simple, don't.

[noxlumos]

Not quite sure why you think "society won't have it"? It's not that unusual for someone to have an older partner and if you love him then whose business is it anyway?If you don't want to have sex with him then don't, dead simple, but the age difference is not a big deal.

[redcrx]

a sensible answer from sebass.
No you may see why society finds it strange that an 18 year old would have a relationship with a 50 year old. The views of life and relationships are different.

[Octavius]

Exactly as you have said it here.... 'I'm not ready'.

[Loosehead]

A 50 year old bloke wants to have sex with an 18 year old, that's a surprise!

[pie+mash]

Karie,

What has society got to do with how you feel?

If you don't want sex, then tell him. If you are guided by "society" then you shouldn't be in the relationship full stop!

[China Doll]

Karie... forgive me, slightly hungover so it's taken me a while this morning... are you asking about the age gap or the unready to have sex bit?

If the age gap - worry less about what society thinks and concentrate on what you want and need.

If the sex, if he loves you as much as you love him then I'm sure he'll wait. And there's other stuff you can do without having sex.

Hope that helps, it's the best my befuddled brain can come up with this morning. All the best xx

[WendyS]

Of course he wants to have sex with you. Having sex with, an attractive young 18 year old is a more pleasant prospect than going to bed with a 50 year old woman of his own age whose boobs are probably dropping a bit and who's picked up a bit of flab around the hips and tummy !!.

Don't be naive. If's he's trying to put pressure on you, he doesn't love you. He's so old that he probably wants a trophy on his arm when he's out in public, or somebody to push his wheelchair in his old age. If you don't want sex, don't have it and find a nice young man your old age who is happy to enjoy your company rather than spend all his time getting you into bed.

[crete]

it has nothing to do with society if you both love each other if you dont want to have sex you just tell him dont wish to be nosy but is this mature gentleman wealthy ?

[maggie01]

He probably can't believe his luck

[joko]

this how you can prove 'to society' that your love is real - by not having sex for a good while - people cannot then claim he's just a dirty old man taking advantage of you.

tell anyone who asks that you are not having sex.

as has been said, if he really loves you he will wait.
if he won't then he is not the man you thought he was and you need to move on