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[ingram]

Hi,my sis is having a few problems with her partner,
he has hes own house and wants her to move in,the thing is shes always cleaning up after him and he likes to come in lay on a new sofa sometimes with mud all over him after bait digging,she already cooks,cleans,does his washing and ironing,and has done alot of the decorating and paid out for some of the furniture, and has been buying all the food,hes always on about money and wants her to give to all the bills.
do you think shes mad to give up her flat.
i think hes being selfish and unfair just seems to me that shes a scivvy
what do you think.
thanks for all your answers

[RATTER15]

He needs his butt kicked into touch by the sounds of it and if she wants to move in with a guy like that she needs her head looking at!!

[crete]

he sounds a right catch only your sister can make the decision , hopefully she will soon realise this man only requires an unpaid housekeeper.

[WendyS]

Reckon your sister would be crazy to give up her independence and the roof over her head to move in with this lazy tight fisted slob

His mother probably waited on him hand and fist from birth and now he's looking for a replaement with sex thrown in.

Tell her she deserves better and it's about time she looked around for somebody who wants an equal partner, not just a household slave. Is her self-esteem so low that this is all she thinks she is worth?

[sense4all]

Why does she do it? What does she get out of this situation ? would be what I'd ask her!

[noxlumos]

Well he can do as he pleases in his own house but he shouldn't expect her to do anything, or pay anything, that's unreasonable.
I've been with my wife for nine years now and she still has her flat in Covent Garden, initially probably because she wasn't sure of me completely and later because it's always sensible to keep property if you own it. If she owns her flat tell her to rent it as then it's always available for her to move back into if he turns out not to be Prince Charming ( which I think is a more or less forgone conclusion). He sounds like he's got a real attitude problem though to me and I suggest she avoids him like the plague.

[ingram]

Hi wendy, yes she has got very low self esteme.at the moment she can't get him out of her mind which is'nt helping matters.