Really Need Help Here!

[EmilyAdkins1]

So my youngest sister (who is 15 btw) She came out to me as lesbian (and of course I support her because I respect the rights of LGBTQ+) but we have Christian parents (so she’s afraid to tell them but she wants to). They do not support Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, Transgenders, Queers, etc. They always talk about how bad it is and that it’s wrong. She doesn’t like keeping secrets but she doesn’t want to get in trouble. I had to wait till I hit 18 and I was leaving for college to tell them that I was Bi. Does anyone know what I can do? I don’t want her to feel bad about it.

[Zacs-Master]

Meanwhile, back on planet earth.......

[aelmpvw]

you could always tell your parents to grow up

[EdmundD]

"Queers"? Haven't heard that term in years.

[Zacs-Master]

What did you think the Q stood for in LGBGTQ.... ?

[gingejbee]

...or been watching "It's A Sin".....

[Jackdaw33]

I think the Q stands for questioning, i.e. someone who is not sure which team to bat for.

[ummmm]

It's a sin was very emotional.

[McMouse]

If she comes out to your parents what are the likely to do? Beat her up, though her out? If they are believing Christians they should just pray that her chosen preference makes her happy.

[Zacs-Master]

Can stand for both actually, JD.

[naomi24]

What happened when you told them you're 'Bi'?

[Apc2604]

The word Queer is regularly being used again now Edmund by gays themselves.

[Jackdaw33]

When I was young the euphemisms were 'musical' or 'theatrical'.

[jackthehat]

There is never a right time to Come Out....but there are oodles of wrong times.
At 15 there is no imperative for her to tell your parents unless she is forming a relationship and will be wanting to spend time with 'someone'. She needs to take time to consider how best to phrase what she wants to say and which of your parents may be the most approachable, in the first instance.
You need to be her ally and possibly intercede for her with your parents.

[EmilyAdkins1]

Well jackthehat, I am the most approachable in the family because I have already came out. To someone else’s comment- When I told them I was BI they were not happy and they sat me down for a lecture that made me cry. I do not visit my parents most of the time because of Covid but also because I am not really welcome at their house anymore unless I’m picking up one of my siblings or it’s a holiday

[jackthehat]

There is no handbook which tells parents how to react on hearing such news. And your parents set a great deal of store by another book which is busy telling them that being gay is wrong.

You sister must be true to who she is and if your parents are unable to accept that, then difficult as it is (and you know all about it) you'll all have to reach some sort of agreeement or put up with a fractured relationship.

[EmilyAdkins1]

Thanks jackthehat, I was looking for a good answer

[Smowball]

Think she’s too young to be telling them - she doesn’t need to at 15, and who knows how she will feel in a year or so.

[EmilyAdkins1]

Thx everyone I hope this helps her