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Who Looks After The Finances In Your Relationship ?
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I do, OH is quite happy and oblivious to what goes out and comes in , he never knew he’d had his £100 heating allowance last year till I told him I’d spent it :0)
Or now if you’re on your own, did you used to ? And then find it hard to do ?
Or now if you’re on your own, did you used to ? And then find it hard to do ?
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Our friends we used to go on holiday with ( he died last August) she had her money and he had his even to shopping, he wanted fish or steak ? He’d give her the money to get it, my grandson calls them Grandma and Grandad as they’ve never had a family of their own, they would put £5 each in his money box every week and give him the contents in July , his birthday and at Christmas , he passed away and now the money has gone to a fiver a week , haha
son asked me for £800 to buy some furniture. OH said a flat out 'NO'
He asked for £300 to get a new phone . He said yes to that.
My younger son needed money (student) and we don't do internet banking so he gave him the £300 and told him to transfer it to his .
brother.
Younger son is autistic so if he goes into his overdraft it make him anxious.
He asked for £300 to get a new phone . He said yes to that.
My younger son needed money (student) and we don't do internet banking so he gave him the £300 and told him to transfer it to his .
brother.
Younger son is autistic so if he goes into his overdraft it make him anxious.
We have maintained separate bank accounts, and we always tended to pay depending who had the money - a very loose arrangement.
Mrs Hughes sorts all financial arrangements, booking holidays, tradesmen, etc. I am perfectly capable, but she is a bit of a control freak so if she does it, she knows it's done how she wants it, which is fine.
Mrs H's mum is utterly clueless, never paid a bill in her life and since her dad died, we have had to take over the running of her house for her.
Happily, all our daughters can run things if they need to, I think they have a similar system to ours.
Mrs Hughes sorts all financial arrangements, booking holidays, tradesmen, etc. I am perfectly capable, but she is a bit of a control freak so if she does it, she knows it's done how she wants it, which is fine.
Mrs H's mum is utterly clueless, never paid a bill in her life and since her dad died, we have had to take over the running of her house for her.
Happily, all our daughters can run things if they need to, I think they have a similar system to ours.
I am mystified as to how married couples can insist in 'his' and 'her' money - surely the definition of marriage is sharing everything you have with each other?
When we met, my wife was a barmaid, separated with two small children and no money at all. I supported her through college.
She became a teacher, rising to be a head teacher, then an ISI and Ofsted inspector working in the Arab Emirates, so she earned far more than I did.
But the 'shared' attitude to money has remained exactly the same, it's all our money, and we spend it how we wish.
When we met, my wife was a barmaid, separated with two small children and no money at all. I supported her through college.
She became a teacher, rising to be a head teacher, then an ISI and Ofsted inspector working in the Arab Emirates, so she earned far more than I did.
But the 'shared' attitude to money has remained exactly the same, it's all our money, and we spend it how we wish.
Just to confirm we each have our own accounts and I spend what I like, a joint one for bills but he handles the mortgage and outgoings and does my internet banking for me (with me in the room). It's pathetic but my blood runs cold if I have to deal with anything from the bank, even though I'm quite comfortably off these days.
// I am mystified as to how married couples can insist in 'his' and 'her' money //
it saves them from asking for money which no one likes
( because, Freud said, you never asked your mother for it - - well that is good old Ziggie for you)
so yes, the other one has money that can be spent as wanted.
I go froo every every transaction every month oo er mrs ! because Henry VII did it - no - because we have been subjected to cloning and stealing and scamming and all that lah-dee-dah more than once
Large amounts are formally discussed on an agendy - prevents "blimey did I say yes to that?" - actually because me auld da' got absolutely screwed when he was deaf on that in a contract that he was held to (outside the fambly)
it saves them from asking for money which no one likes
( because, Freud said, you never asked your mother for it - - well that is good old Ziggie for you)
so yes, the other one has money that can be spent as wanted.
I go froo every every transaction every month oo er mrs ! because Henry VII did it - no - because we have been subjected to cloning and stealing and scamming and all that lah-dee-dah more than once
Large amounts are formally discussed on an agendy - prevents "blimey did I say yes to that?" - actually because me auld da' got absolutely screwed when he was deaf on that in a contract that he was held to (outside the fambly)
