how would you feel ?

[crete]

i hope to DOWNSIZE within the next few months and have been in my house for 26 years would you be sad leaving your house which holds so many memories ?

[Pippa68]

Well crete...we are considering moving right now, and although part of me feels a bit sad (one of our daughters was born here & we have lots of memories) another part of me feels quite excited about moving on. I suppose it is inevitable that you will feel a mixture of emotions.

[crete]

my children were brought up in this house , my mother died in this house .

[4getmenot]

Definitely I�m one of those people that hoard all sorts so yer would upset me. I know even know if my parenst were to sell the house I grew up in I would be gutted.

[Pippa68]

That's what I am saying crete ~ my children were brought up in the house we are in..they don't know anything else. If you really feel sad about leaving the house do you have to? I cope with change quite well, but understand the sadness felt at leaving. Maybe see it as a new adventure, or don't move at all..

[crete]

pippa ive given the wrong impression i cant wait to move on to a new stage in my life but i do wonder why i am so eager to leave a home which has so many memories,

[Pippa68]

Awww crete ~ it's just part of life, lovey. it's a bit like your child starting school, or leaving school..a new era that brings mixed feelings.

I believe you can take your memories with you. They are, after all, in your head & heart. Do you feel as if you are betraying someone when you leave your house? the only other thing I can add is that when you settle in your new home you will be all set to create new memories for the future :o)

[mccfluff]

I've never really stayed anywhere for long, i love moving on, just hate the actual moving i have so much cr@p

[laurence2]

Its bound to hold so many memories, especially the ones you have pointed out, but its also very exciting and a new challenge to move somewhere else and put your own stamp on it.

Just don't be like my mum & dad, they,ve moved 9 times {again on the 22/9} in 15 years, and i thought moving was meant to be STRESSFUL

[shaneystar2]

In nearly 35 years of marriage we have moved 15 times ..mind you a lot of it was rented property abroad when Mr.S .was working.We lived in our last house for twenty years ..the longest anywhere and I was sad to leave .It wasn't just the house ..it was my friends ,neighbours and environment I was leaving to move 250 miles to downsize.We haven't downsized in terms of size of house exactly but in our way of life.
I just ran out of the door sobbing buckets !! But...you soon settle down again ..it all takes time .I hated where we are now at first ..although I was brought up here as a child and have family here but have gradually come to accept it ,made new friends and put my stamp on the house.It is only bricks and mortar after all .It's what is in it that is important.
All the best ..I am sure everything will work out OK for you.

[Sherry1]

You can move as often as you like crete but your memories will always travel with you
x

[maggie01]

The way I see it. You are leaving bricks and mortar, the memories will be with you where ever you go. A new start and lots more memories to make. Good Luck !

[willa]

Maybe it's because we don't have children, or because we've only been in this house 9 years (3rd house in 20-year marriage), but this house to me is just a place to hang our hats. Sure, I want it to look nice and well maintained - and it's quite a showplace - but I don't love it. I love the stuff that happens inside it, and the people that come and go, but the happenings and the people aren't house-dependent. I figure as long as that's the case, anyplace with the ones you love, and with adequate loo facilities, is home for me.

We hold the memories. The house just holds the stuff.

[crete]

thanks to all who posted.

[Pippa68]

willa put it so well!

Hope you are feeling a bit better, crete :o)

[crete]

am tikety boo thanks pippa