Starting Nursery

[Taz70]

My three year old daughter has just started nursery on Monday and I ended up spending the whole session with her because she kicked and screamed "I want my mum." This happened again on Wednesday. She is quite shy and I have never left her with anybody before except my mum. The first day I hid and watched her for almost an hour and she screamed the whole time and wouldn't let any of the staff console her. Has anybody got any tips because this is just wearing me down and breaking my heart. Thanks in advance.

[electricblue]

Aww taz,i've been there,if she's so used to always being with you then she's gonna be terrified when she sees you leave,why dont you try leaving for a minute,maybe popping to the toilet,after that try and progress to maybe popping to the shop then returning,as she sees that you ARE coming back she may start to settle,at the moment apart from your mum she has you 24/7,assure her you WILL be back but that you have to go and get her some sweets or something,i tried that with my youngest when she was little,told her i had to go to the shop and get her sweets then i'd come back,when she saw that i was coming back she started to relax,its tough when you see them upset but its important that she starts mixing now,so she can grow up a happy and content little girl,good luck!

[Taz70]

Thanks for that electricblue. I'm definitely going to try the gradual approach. She needs to start mixing now or she'll have a huge shock when she starts school next year. It can only get better - keep fingers crossed

[electricblue]

She just needs to know that you're coming back for her,persevere,you'll soon be on here asking why your daughter doesnt care if you go or not,,lol,let us know how it goes will you,,??

[Taz70]

If only. Her running in without a backward glance would be a dream come true. Mildly upsetting that she doesn't care if I'm there or not though, lol. Never happy are we? Will keep you posted, thanks for encouragement

[Gef]

Once upon a time we all started school when we were five and much more able to cope with it. Call me old fashioned if you want.

[electricblue]

Lots of things have changed gef,not always for the better.but such is life eh?

[Taz70]

Had to share great news! I had to take my son to a doctors appt today so my mum took my daughter to nursery. She stayed with her for half an hour and then told her she would be back later. She moaned for a short while and then was good as gold. How brill is that? She collected her 2 hours later and was told that she was good as gold. I just hope it lasts. My mum's going to take her for the next few sessions to try and establish that routine. Thanks all of you for your support. Keep your fingers crossed that it continues xx

[electricblue]

Thats great news taz,if u not there she cant put it on can she?As long as she knows you'll be back she WILL settle,she'll love it,keep us posted!