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Hi i wonder if anyone could help me please?
I have been referred by my doctor to the fertility clinic. I have been trying to get pregnant for two years with no luck. I have had several blood test done at my gp, which tbh i didnt really understand, but they had to be on day 19-21 of cycle. I presume that either they wernt right or thye were right, but i was referred anyway cause its been a while trying
Anyway, has anyone had to go to the fertility clinic before? are there things they can do that dont include IVF? (which i disagree with). What happens at the appointment? My husband is i think a little relieved that i have not got pregnant yet, but before i give up every hope of being a parent, i want to make sure i have explored every avenue, even if i dont ultimately take that avenue. When i talk to him he is not particularly over enthusiastic about having kids, but would (and has been!) trying because he wants me to be happy. another problem is that he hates seeing me unwell, and ive had to come off my regular medication, making my illness worse to get pregnant
So basically my q's are
1)what happens at a first appt?
2)can other stuff happen apart form IVF?
3)they have asked for him to come if he can to the appt - if he is going to be negative to the doctors will this disqualify me?
4) any views you want to share with me, or experiences you have had
Just so you know, although i cant tell you what to answer me, i KNOW that the most improtant thing to do is have an agreement with my husband, however, i sort of see it as if for example they were to say "there is no hope" i could go back on the medication much quicker that if i were to drift along trying for a few more years
I have been referred by my doctor to the fertility clinic. I have been trying to get pregnant for two years with no luck. I have had several blood test done at my gp, which tbh i didnt really understand, but they had to be on day 19-21 of cycle. I presume that either they wernt right or thye were right, but i was referred anyway cause its been a while trying
Anyway, has anyone had to go to the fertility clinic before? are there things they can do that dont include IVF? (which i disagree with). What happens at the appointment? My husband is i think a little relieved that i have not got pregnant yet, but before i give up every hope of being a parent, i want to make sure i have explored every avenue, even if i dont ultimately take that avenue. When i talk to him he is not particularly over enthusiastic about having kids, but would (and has been!) trying because he wants me to be happy. another problem is that he hates seeing me unwell, and ive had to come off my regular medication, making my illness worse to get pregnant
So basically my q's are
1)what happens at a first appt?
2)can other stuff happen apart form IVF?
3)they have asked for him to come if he can to the appt - if he is going to be negative to the doctors will this disqualify me?
4) any views you want to share with me, or experiences you have had
Just so you know, although i cant tell you what to answer me, i KNOW that the most improtant thing to do is have an agreement with my husband, however, i sort of see it as if for example they were to say "there is no hope" i could go back on the medication much quicker that if i were to drift along trying for a few more years
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I wont go into the whole - "my husband isn't really keen" thing - you yourself know what is right. I do however have relevant experience of the fertility clinic.
Has your husband been to the doctor at all?
If not, it is likely that they will physically examine his equipment and conduct a series of sperm tests - usually he will get a bottle to fill at home and he must then deliver it to where it needs to go - most likely the clinic - as soon as possible while keeping it at body temperature - my husband tucked his into his armpit underneath his jacket, but then he was riding a motorbike!
They will have a talk with both of you about the frequency of se and about your relationship in general - trying for a baby can be very stressful and can result in a lot of relationship breakdown.
They will then want to carry out an investigation on you - this can vary in content depending on the results of previous tests - personally mine consisted of being weighed, measured, blood test and blood pressure and an internal scan.
As a result of the initial tests, I had to go for a laparoscopy and something else that the name escapes me, where they flush dye through your tubes and check that they are working correctly.
I was then told that I had one partially blocked tube but that it shouldn't prevent me form concieving - I got pregnant the next month after two years of trying.
tbc
Has your husband been to the doctor at all?
If not, it is likely that they will physically examine his equipment and conduct a series of sperm tests - usually he will get a bottle to fill at home and he must then deliver it to where it needs to go - most likely the clinic - as soon as possible while keeping it at body temperature - my husband tucked his into his armpit underneath his jacket, but then he was riding a motorbike!
They will have a talk with both of you about the frequency of se and about your relationship in general - trying for a baby can be very stressful and can result in a lot of relationship breakdown.
They will then want to carry out an investigation on you - this can vary in content depending on the results of previous tests - personally mine consisted of being weighed, measured, blood test and blood pressure and an internal scan.
As a result of the initial tests, I had to go for a laparoscopy and something else that the name escapes me, where they flush dye through your tubes and check that they are working correctly.
I was then told that I had one partially blocked tube but that it shouldn't prevent me form concieving - I got pregnant the next month after two years of trying.
tbc
There could be a number of reasons that you have not conceived, stress being one of them, hormone levels which may need adjusting - blocked tubes that may or may not be able to be cleared or it could be that your husband has sperm problems - they are probably hundreds more.
I am sure that you have already read up on ways to maximise your chances, but I will repeat some anyway, have sex frequently - every couple of days at all times of your cycle - don't go to the toilet afterwards - apparantly the missionary position or similar is better as there is deaper penetration and gravity helps.
The main thing is to try to avoid stress.
I am sure that you have already read up on ways to maximise your chances, but I will repeat some anyway, have sex frequently - every couple of days at all times of your cycle - don't go to the toilet afterwards - apparantly the missionary position or similar is better as there is deaper penetration and gravity helps.
The main thing is to try to avoid stress.
hi bednobs,
Do you think that perhaps your partner may feel that he is the route of the problem and thats whys not keen on delving further into the parenting stuff?
Has he been checked and found to be OK?
IVF is just a small part of what a clinic can do, they may just be able to prescribe you something to kick start your system.
As already said though try not to stress over it as that hampers your chances. Try not to make a chore out of having sex but do it as often as possible to make sure you get your fertile time.
You could also try plotting your temps to find out when you are most likely to fall.
when you do have sex, dont get up and rush to loo. You dont have to lay with legs in the air or anything like that but try and relax and give nature a helping hand.
Both times i fell pregnant it was after 3am sex. Thats because i didnt rush off to loo or to get a drink etc.
good luck
Do you think that perhaps your partner may feel that he is the route of the problem and thats whys not keen on delving further into the parenting stuff?
Has he been checked and found to be OK?
IVF is just a small part of what a clinic can do, they may just be able to prescribe you something to kick start your system.
As already said though try not to stress over it as that hampers your chances. Try not to make a chore out of having sex but do it as often as possible to make sure you get your fertile time.
You could also try plotting your temps to find out when you are most likely to fall.
when you do have sex, dont get up and rush to loo. You dont have to lay with legs in the air or anything like that but try and relax and give nature a helping hand.
Both times i fell pregnant it was after 3am sex. Thats because i didnt rush off to loo or to get a drink etc.
good luck
Hi Bednobs.
Just read your post and I'm in the dame situation as you with trying to get pregnant (have been trying for the past 2 1/2 years) I have now been referred to Fertility Clinic and was wondering on things as well. Not to sure about IVF myself. Good luck and it would be interesting to know how you get on.x
Just read your post and I'm in the dame situation as you with trying to get pregnant (have been trying for the past 2 1/2 years) I have now been referred to Fertility Clinic and was wondering on things as well. Not to sure about IVF myself. Good luck and it would be interesting to know how you get on.x
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