Partner problems

[jack_s]

I have recently split up with my boyfriend and we have a joint owned house and a child of 2. We are now looking to sell the house and go our separate ways, sharing custody. I have now been sleeping on the sofa for the last 2 months as I felt this was best.
But over the last month or so my boyfriend's behaviour has declined. He comes right up to my face and shouts at me, even when our child is in the room, he has made me go back to work and pay 50% of everything, regardless of whether it is good for our child. He does nothing round the house and very little with the child and yesterday he spat in my face and admitted he wants me out and will make my life hell. He also threatened to come down every hour in the night and throw me off "his" sofa.
I can't move out otherwise he will not sell the house and I need the capital for finding somewhere to live for me and my child.
Is there anything I can do to make him improve his behaviour??

[Carakeel]

Go to the Citizens Advice Bureau or a solicitor and get help immediately! You may well find that it is him who will have to vacate the house, as there is a child involved. Don't wait 'till he physically hurts either you or your child. If you feel your safety or that of your child is threatened, get a restraining order at once! Remember, it only takes one violent act to kill a child or an adult!!! Do not put yourself or your child in danger! The police have dedicated officers who specialise in domestic violence and are very helpful. A restraining order means that, if he comes close to you or your child, he can be arrested. Make sure though that your allegations and claims are truthful and will stick! This is so important!!! You need to keep a diary of events and see if you may have witnesses, such as neighbours who have overheard or seen his threatening behaviour. Go to your GP and tell him what is happening, so there is a record of the stress you are under - and if your boyfriend becomes violent and hurts you or your child physically in any way, have the doctor document this immediately. Take photos of any damage to your child, yourself or property. He has obviously lost all respect for you or he wouldn't do things like spit in your face. So, please, please do be careful! Talk to your family and closest friends about the situation and get them to spend more time with you when you are at home. Do not hit your boyfriend unless in self-defence. Violence towards him is just as wrong as it is towards you, so make sure you don't go down this route. Of possible, try to remove your child from the situation. If you think your bf is going to kick off, but need to talk to him, ask a relative to take your child for a few hours or ask neighnours to look after the little one and to check on you after a while. Have courage, you will get through this and find a happier life, even if it will take time. Just stay positive for yourself and your child. I wish you both well.

[RATTER15]

You are entitled to that house just as much as he is, in fact more as you have a child and the law will not make you sell that house until that child is 16 or until he/she finishes full time education.
You are being abused for Christs sake!! do something about it now before it is to late
Get a restraining order against him as soon as possible.

[shelly1]

if you feel that you or your child r in danger contact the police they can remove him from the house then get a restraining order so that he can't come near the house or you. i know this is a frighting situation as i have been here myself you are probably worried about contacting the police and making a bad situation even worse but you need to put your safety and your child first you r entitlied to remain in the house until your child reaches the age of 16 if it is possible you can buy his share of the house so that you have now more ties with this man. you have to be strong and stand up to this yob. be safe